You are not alone.
You are not alone when you wake and you push the snooze button and wish for five more minutes of sleep and push the snooze button again and then proceed to roll out of bed ten minutes later than you should and start the day racing out of breath just a bit.
You are not alone if you find yourself repeating no you may not do that and stop that and seriously? we’ve established that rule and no more media and stop picking on your brother (or sister) every single day.
You are not alone if sometimes you look at the Facebook stream and think that your life doesn’t measure up to the highlight stream that is culled over there.
You are not alone if there are moments when you stand in the kitchen and have no clue what to make for dinner and then you find yourself breathing a sigh of relief for the chicken nuggets in the freezer and can of corn in the cupboard.
You are not alone if you sit at the table and struggle with fifth grade math and have to google the answer to finding the mean, median, and mode again.
You are not alone if you don’t coupon. Or if you do coupon.
You are not alone if your kids play on electronics and then you feel guilt because you let them play just a bit longer so you could get one more thing done.
You are not alone if you’ve doubted that what you’re doing as a mother really matters and you’ve stood in the bathroom and looked in the mirror and wondered if you’re enough.
You are not alone if you’re tired. Trust me, you’re really not alone here.
You are not alone if you’ve ever felt alone in this motherhood journey.
You are not alone if you have that moment in the beginning of the day when you ponder how today will go and if you’ll get the to-do list done and if there is enough coffee in the cabinet to sustain you.
You are not alone if you work. Or if you stay at home. Or if you do both.
You are not alone if you feel guilt for working. Or staying at home. Or for both.
You are not alone if you have Pinterest boards full of awesomeness and you’ve only done two. Or maybe three. Or if they’re full of motivational quotes on motherhood and life like mine is.
You are not alone if you have laundry to fold and a kitchen to clean but instead you decide to close your eyes just for a moment.
You are not alone when you love your kids like crazy and can pick them out of the crowd of thirty-eight kids waiting at the curb for you to pick them up from school.
You are not alone if you know all the songs from Frozen and will belt them along with your preschooler.
You are not alone for finding joy in having a kitchen counter that is clean or that the laundry is done or that there is nothing on your calendar to do today.
You are not alone in worrying that you are doing enough for your children even though deep down you truly really are and yet you have those pesky doubts that like to remind you of all the times you’ve stumbled instead of seeing where you soared.
You are not alone in wanting friendships.
You are not alone if your child is the one at Target having the meltdown at the register because you refuse to purchase the toy that is conveniently placed at eye level.
You are not alone when you consider going to Target or the grocery store by yourself a mini vacation.
You are not alone if you’ve ever struggled with mom guilt or comparison or feeling like you’re the only one that doesn’t have the ideal life and you’re not doing enough.
You are not alone in having dishes that need to be done or a bathroom that needs to be cleaned or any of those normal house chores that are part of life that we often don’t give ourselves grace to realize that we’re always in the middle of them and they’re never really ever done.
You are not alone in having a home that in your head would always look a certain way but you have kids and that means that there are handprints on the walls, marker stains on the table, mismatched socks in the laundry room, and a bunch of stuff that seems like it always needs to be sorted.
You are not alone if you’ve stayed up all night with a sick little one and taken temperatures and grabbed the Tylenol and had to decide if you go to the doctor or not and back and forth.
You are not alone in having days that don’t go perfectly.
You are not alone when you have wonderful days that simply make you smile.
You are not alone when you walk in their rooms at night and you look at those sleeping faces and you wonder why in the world they pushed all of your buttons two hours earlier.
You are not alone if you go to bed tired and you don’t remember your head hitting the pillow.
You are not alone if you’ve cried tears behind the bathroom door and counted to ten and gathered your courage and had to do it again.
You are not alone when you realize what a gift motherhood is in those times where you can slow down enough to catch your breath.
You are not alone if you have those moments where you look at all you’ve done and you just sigh and see the beauty in the very extraordinary ordinary.
You are not alone, dear mother.
You are not alone in this crazy journey called motherhood.
You are not alone.
You are instead strong, beautiful, powerful, amazing, and a life changer.
Sometimes we all need a reminder of all that we are.
And that truthfully, we are not alone.
We are not alone.
ps. I’d be super blessed if you liked this article if you’d click like or share it with your friends on facebook – that we the “you are not alone” cry of awesome can continue. 🙂
Rachel, I really needed this today, the reminder of the importance of what mothering does, to get my mind off all the discouragements of what I feel I’ve done wrong, the things I can’t undo and the things I have to live with. Most of the things you listed I’ve dealt with this week, and most weeks of motherhood in fact. It helps to be reminded that all that stuff is normal, thank you!
A great post, as we really are Not alone in our individual journeys of motherhood. Recognizing and sharing that un-aloneness is in fact part of the strength we give one another to keep moving forward. Especially on the tough days. 🙂
If some mothers never went through at least some of these notions they are lying most of all to themselves. That is why this list of ” you are not alone ” would have to be shared with all mothers. We love our children, partner, brothers and sisters, neighbours and colleges – please start loving yourselves!!
So good. Thank you. When your children r from 36- 16 you realise the proof of the pudding is in the eating. Don’t sweat the small stuff and it’s all small stuff
You can add… You are not alone of during this one article you had to break up 3 fights and send a child to time out just so you could finish it.
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This is one of the best article on motherhood I have read. I always joke about having a sink full of dishes and clean/dirty laundry piles and some nights I just look at the toys scattered and think I am too tired to pick them up and put them away when she will just throw them all over the place again tomorrow. I would rather spend my time playing and enjoying my little miracle then doing dishes. Thank you for making me feel not alone in my adventure! And yes, some days it is nuggets for supper!
Really well written article. I really needed to see this today. I write on my blog theguiltymommy.com because I often feel inadequate and have so much mommy guilt. It is always nice to see “I am not alone”. Thank you. I am going to like this on facebook so I can reread it during a tough day.
Every word is so true! We all need to embrace each moment we are given with the honor of being a Mom! I believe being a mom, is greater than any title out there! Sometimes it’s hard to remember that when Jello is all over the floor, the dogs eating your favorite shoe, your late getting out the door and the kids are all having meltdowns, that being a Mom is the most awesome thing you can be!
Thank you Rachel, for keeping it real and reminding us how hard we work EVERY day EVERY moment and that it is ok to fail sometimes. We hold such a high standard for our blessings , it does get crazy and you want to be perfect for those little loves. After 7 years w triplet boys, I am finally letting up a little on myself
I feel like you channel me. Like whenever I need a boost your blog just fits. Maybe we’re Rachel’s connected LOL! 🙂 Thank you so much for this today…I really needed it. <3
Ha! I love this!
Have a great day.
I’ve got this page bookmarked and today is the third time I have read it. It was just one of those days and so I read this to comfort myself – it worked. I cannot thank you enough for writing and publishing this piece. It brings endless reassurance.
(mother of 3 year and 6 month old girls)
This is awesome! I had to laugh and cry at the same time… Especially since I am sitting behind a bathroom door crying because my day is not going perfectly!
Not sure why but this touched me very deeply today. Thank you for this.
WOW!!!!! THANKS RACHEL……. THANKS RACHEL FOR REMINDING ME HOW MUCH IM WORTH…. Had to catch my breath, wonder how in the world I could so much…. God bless.
I tend to judge myself very harshly, and I have a lot of “shoulds”. You hit most of them on the head. It was like reading a hug. Made me tear up a bit. : ) Thank you.
I’m the one behind the bathroom door myself! And one of mine is 13! Sigh. Thank you for the reminder. 😊
Need one for single dads! I had 3 ages 3-5 and 7. Their mom walked out on them! Started my day getting them up dressed and to daycare. To work in a factory 8 to sometimes 9. Pick them back up and home to make supper for them. Let them watch tv while I cleaned up the kitchen. Plus laundry to do for clean clothes for the next day! Been through it but wouldn’t give it up