I see you.
I see how tired you are. I see how you feel at the end of your rope.
I see the exhaustion. I see the stuff to be done and the stuff you forgot to do. I see the expectations and the cries for you and the times when you just want to scream and the times when you just want sleep.
I know.
I need you to keep going.
I know, I know, it’s not what you wanted to hear. I know, I get it. I’m so tired too. I look at my calendar and I think about when I last had a night off and I can’t find a date on it. It’s easy to get angry, to look at all the unfair stuff. I get that too. It’s easy to get frustrated and overwhelmed and to feel like all of the stuff — the dishes and laundry and doctor’s appointments and texts and driving here and there and everything just doesn’t make a difference. But in it all, let me just for a moment remind you of the grand gift that you are giving in this most worn out state.
You are giving.
To those that need you most.
To your kids.
Yes them, those little and bigs and middles that are so often the reason you are worn out.
Our kids, your kids, they need you.
They need you despite all of that stuff going on.
And that’s why we keep going, you keep going, even though you’re worn out. Not because you don’t have anything left to give or you’re trying to prove a point, but rather because you love. You love with so much of you that you don’t quit.
Your kids, even if they fight you, know that about you.
They know that you are the one that won’t give up on them. They know how much you love them no matter what. They know that you are worn, and maybe they don’t see it, but that you will show up for them. They know that if they yell your name at 3 am that you will, no matter what, roll out of your bed and answer them. Whether they are babes or teens.
You show up.
Showing up matters so incredibly much. Do you understand that? Do you even know what a life gift you are giving when you continually show up day after day after day after day after day?
Our kids need parents that show up. Even when they test the limits, even when they slam doors, even when life is not perfect. Showing up is not easy. I know. I know how it feels to have teens look at me like I’m an alien now. I know how it feels to deal with anger. But you now what?
It’s our job to show up.
But here’s the deal. I need you no matter what to show up for yourself as well. Yes, you. I need you to work to let go of the anger and to replace it with hope – even if you’ve been dealt a rotten set of cards. I need you to not martyr. I need you to let go of all the stuff you have on that list and see that you are worth showing up for. I need you to rise up. And I need you to take care of you.
It means saying yes for help or no to obligations. It means not forgetting your heart in this whole journey.
You cannot burn out. You cannot.
And you are the only person that can prevent that from happening.
So promise me that you will show up for you too.
Even in the midst of the crazy.
You are worth it. Your kids are worth it.
You will get through.
More than that, you will thrive.
You can do this, worn out mom. You are making more of a difference than you know.
Yes, you.
~Rachel
who is worn out tonight and just wrote herself a pep talk.
and ps. if you’re a worn out dad, then this is for you too. <3
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As always, you have the words that make me laugh, cry, & know it’s all okay. I don’t know you but I feel like you know me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts…they are powerful.
I needed this. without a shadow of a doubt, this was for me today.
Thank you so much! I brought tears to my eyes!
I see you.
The mum that reads these articles
The articles that tell the mum that she is worn out.
I see how you wanted more children. Or more than one child. But. For whatever reason, you couldn’t.
I hear how you long to be busy with children that you long for. But social media looks after the busy mum with 3 kids.
I see how youre bored in the day. Then feel guilty for being bored. Because you’re a woman with one child. Or no child. And your longings have not been met. But your depression from infertility makes it nigh on impossible to work.
I see how you would love to have baby sick down your top. And a messy house. And difficult teenagers. Because. That would mean you have children to love, despite the stress they bring. You would have the hug from tiny hands. That you have forever longed for.
I hear your frustration. Because you see other mums tearing their hair out on a daily basis. Yet. All you want. Is to conceive!
I hear you.
I’m a “worn out Grandma” who much needed this pep talk! Thank you!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. This encapsulated EVERY emotion that has been overwhelming me recently. Your posts are always motivating, inspiring and REAL!
Just shared with my daughter.. Perfectly written❤👌
It is so true, it is a hard job being a parent and we do so much for love. You started explaining all the difficulties go through every day and at the end you gave a great word of encouragement to love ourselves too. This is a positive way of thinking and a positive attitude, life is life and we are working hard because we love our family.
I have two teens a tween (acting more like a teen these days.). I needed this today because I felt like giving up . Thank you.
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