Or at least your perspective.
1. Kicking Fear to the Curb. How many times do you let fear dictate choices? In fact, we live in kind of a fear inducing culture right now. There is so much information, so many choices, so many options, that often times there is this fear of not making the right choice. I look at motherhood and the over abundance of opinions on raising children – and sometimes fear of making a mistake can hold us back. Don’t let fear limit you, your potential, or even your outlook on today. Be bold, make a decision, and move forward.
2. Learning to like yourself. And forgive yourself. And move on. And well, truly, just being comfortable in being you. So I’m 43 and I’m finally learning to embrace me for me. Competition and comparing one’s self against others just leads to discontentment. It’s what makes us wonder if we’re really cut out for this job and makes us doubt our own awesomeness. Start to like you for you and embrace the gifts you bring to the table.
3. Ending Procrastination. I have lived such an if this happens then I will be happy life. Well, as you know from my writing, the ifs sometimes never happen or take forever and time just keeps moving by exponentially. Procrastination keeps us stuck. As moms it keeps us from doing what we need to do to make today better than yesterday. Where are you procrastinating? What should you be doing that you keep putting on the back burners? What should you stop doing but you’ve just not had the courage, time, or gumption to stop? No more procrastinating.
4. Finding time to do what you love. Time keeps moving. Don’t let the busy keep you from cultivating your own dreams, talents, and joys. If you love to garden then garden. If you love to knit then find time to knit. If you love to travel then figure out a way to travel. This goes along with the procrastinating. You can always be busy. Always. The to-do list will never end. Make sure to find time in that to-do list to do what you love. When you invest in you you recharge yourself and then are a better you for those you love.
5. Doing, not just dreaming. It’s great to dream. But a dream without a plan is just that – a dream. So start doing. If you love to write and dream about writing a book then start actually writing the book. When you work on a dream it motivates others, including children, to move forward pursuing dreams. This can be a scary thing, but articulate and share your dream with others so that you have an accountability partner who can keep pushing you forward.
6. Investing in your friends and family. Kids are only young once. Friends are an ultimate gift. Do you invest time with them? Do you really listen? Or do you race through times together with a mumbling mmhmm and uh-huh posture? When you invest time with others, including your family, not only is your heart filled but also theirs. Time spent with those you love will be what you remember in life.
7. Not being afraid to fail. Failing is part of learning. It’s a part of life. When we fail (or our kids fail) we learn to pick ourselves up again, to learn from our mistakes, and to keep moving. It’s easy to stop, to think that this is the end, but it takes great tenacity, perseverance, and learning to try again. Don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. There is no perfect, there is only real. And real is tripping sometimes and then not staying there but fighting through.
8. Being positive and kind. A smile can change someone’s day. Looking for the good can change your day. Life is hard. It’s full of moments that are challenging. There are ups and downs and crazy times and ridiculous times. There are days where throwing in the towel feels like it’s needed. My challenge to you? Look for the beautiful moments tucked within the ordinary. Start to practice gratitude. In fact, of all eight, if you can work on just implementing this one this alone will change your life.
And you? Choices that you love?
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Want to know how these choices changed my life? Discover it in my book The Brave Art of Motherhood.