keep your head up, dear mom.

This is for you.

Yes, you.

You, the very imperfect mom, living a very real life

You, the mom, wandering around the grocery store with the gigantic minivan of a cart with a toddler crying in the front and a preschooler running for crackers and you, you with your box of coupons that you maybe use once, and a list that you’d love to follow, but you’re really just trying to avoid the cereal aisle with the toys.

You, the mom, with every duck lined in a row.

You, the mom with, a messy life. With doors slammed and potty training and finances messed up and mornings where you wake up and wonder how you’re going to get through the day.

You, the mom, with many children.

You, the mom, with several children.

You, the mom, with one child.

You, the mom, with your own unique story.

You know what?

Keep your head up.

Keep your head up on the good days, the bad days, the normal days, and the crazy out of breath days that seem to move so fast yet drag so slow.

Keep your head up when the dreams of life that you once had are shattered in pieces around you and you don’t even know how to begin to pick them.

Keep your head up when the laundry topples, the toilet runs over, the toddler screams, the teapot whistles, the preschool tantrums, and it’s just you standing there in a space that feels so crazy and not very much peaceful.

Keep your head up.

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Do you know why?

Because even though motherhood and life can be crazy and hard and so often out of breath it is a season. A season in life where the words and cries of mom come every 18 seconds at times. It’s a season where there are slammed doors and stomping feet and yells of it’s not fair when you declare that it’s bedtime at the same time that bedtime has always been. It’s a season of mismatched socks, puzzle pieces lost, singing of the same songs over and over, bathtimes at night,  buttoning up of coats, hand in hand moments of motherhood.

Sometimes it’s easy to become weary.

It’s easy to wake up and look at your window and compare your life to the mom across the street thinking she’s got it all together.

You know what? She’s probably standing there, in her house, for that split second, that moment of wondering, and wondering why it seems like you’ve got life all wrapped together in a neatly tied bow.

Sometimes, dear mom, it’s easy to let your head droop. You look at life and you look at your list of things to do and things to be and places to go and dreams to complete and you see a list that, well, doesn’t have much crossed off. And that list, those should haves and could haves and hope to dos and all of those mixed with the crazy of the everyday and the never ending giving of self can cause our shoulders slump and heads to drop.

Keep your head up.

The list may never be done.

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But listen.

Listen with ears that are willing to hear the good.

The good is what you do every single boring, normal, crazy, sad, happy, wonderful, stressful, motherhood day. I could list the good, but deep down you know it. You feel it in your core and you have those moments where you simply remember. You’ll remember how strong you were when you felt so weak. You’ll remember your patience that came from no where when you really wanted to run and yell. You’ll remember reading over and over and over and over until your voice no longer had to switch to sound like a frog because now it was just hoarse. You’ll remember when you opened the cabinet doors and scrounged and hurried to put dinner on the table. You’ll remember walks to the park or buckling up of seats and the kisses on the foreheads at night.

The good is in the normal.

Let me repeat that.

The good is in the normal.

In sunny days with sun flittering through the windows. Toddlers laughter. Spilled milk days. Beautiful days. And those days when your head droops and you find the courage and the tenacity and the faith and the hope and the strength to keep on going. You keep going. You keep going day after day after day after day. And those toddlers will grow, the preschoolers age,  the grade schoolers will learn, the junior high schoolers will test, the high schoolers will mature, until the day when they walk out your front door for the last time and you will be left there wondering how did it go so fast?

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You can have bad days. Wait. You will have bad days in the midst of the normal days.

But you will always get through.

Keep your head up. Hold yourself with pride.

You are mother.

And you are a hero.

 

16 Responses to “keep your head up, dear mom.”

  1. January 8, 2014

    Lisa Reply

    Rachel, thank you so much! I really needed this, this week. I always love your writing.

  2. January 8, 2014

    Kristin Kat Reply

    Love the post as always and the part about listening really jumped out to me. Yes, we need to listen. The more we listen, the more they will share, the more we will nurture our relationships, and the more things will all come together.

  3. January 8, 2014

    Harmony Reply

    Wow, I’m not a mother, but I am a nanny. I know it’s not anywhere close to being a mother but this touched me none the less. I’ve had hard days, fun days, sick kids, messes and tears. The kids I watch, they’re my family. I care about them like my own. This is such a sweet message because some days I want to throw in the towel but it’s always worth it when the next I get hugs and smiles and children shouting “We missed you!!”. Being a nanny is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

  4. January 8, 2014

    Beth Ann Chiles Reply

    Perfect post. I loved every bit of it and am sharing because it is so true. I am on the other side of raising my boys but it rings so true and all moms need encouragement for the every day, don’t they? Thanks for sharing such a lovely post today.

  5. January 8, 2014

    Kelli Reply

    Thank you for your encouragement an inspiration to Mothers everywhere!!!

  6. January 8, 2014

    Stephanie Reply

    With recent snow days and school closings, we were stuck inside the house for 5 days. I am slightly ashamed to admit how much TV my kids watched as I hovered over my computer waiting for messages from my husband who was trying to fly out for work. We are “re-entering society” tomorrow and rediscovering normal. It seems so daunting after the last few days, but thank you for the reminder that we will make it.

  7. January 9, 2014

    Lynn Reply

    Samuel in that hat made me actually laugh out loud! That hat is perfect!
    Keep your eyes on the Lord! Lifting up prayers!
    2 Samuel 22:2-3, 7 And he said, The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; The God of my rock; in him will I trust: he is my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower, and my refuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence. (7) In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried to my God: and he did hear my voice out of his temple, and my cry did enter into his ears.
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  8. January 9, 2014

    Tina Reply

    Thank. You.

  9. January 9, 2014

    danielle Reply

    Oh my goodness! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! This was so inspiring:)

  10. January 10, 2014

    Lynn Reply

    Praying right now!
    2 Samuel 22:29-33 For thou art my lamp, O LORD: and the LORD will lighten my darkness. For by thee I have run through a troop: by my God have I leaped over a wall. As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him. For who is God, save the LORD? and who is a rock, save our God? God is my strength and power: and he maketh my way perfect.
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  11. January 10, 2014

    Andria Reply

    This is sooooo true it gives me goosebumps reading it. Makes my eyes water thinking of my children leaving my home someday & I MANY times have that feeling of being just flat out overwhelmed from the hustle & bustle of everyday and the sounds of my four wonderful young children. I hope every mom doing what we do daily knows that they are truly amazing beings and even though it’s hard to see…..
    I honestly believe “Moms” (& dads) make the world go round!

  12. January 12, 2014

    Lynn Reply

    Know I’m always here praying.
    Psalms 71:1-3 In thee, O LORD, do I put my trust: let me never be put to confusion. Deliver me in thy righteousness, and cause me to escape: incline thine ear unto me, and save me. Be thou my strong habitation, whereunto I may continually resort: thou hast given commandment to save me; for thou art my rock and my fortress.
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  13. January 13, 2014

    Lynn Reply

    Lifting up prayer!
    Psalms 71:12, 14-16 O God, be not far from me: O my God, make haste for my help…But I will hope continually, and will yet praise thee more and more. My mouth shall shew forth thy righteousness and thy salvation all the day; for I know not the numbers thereof. I will go in the strength of the Lord GOD: I will make mention of thy righteousness, even of thine only.
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  14. January 22, 2014

    Trina Reply

    Just came across your wonderful blog!

  15. January 22, 2014

    Jenn Porter Reply

    This is so great. Thank you for the encouragement.

  16. I think we all need these reminders! And it does go so fast! My boys are 8 and 11 and the years are flying by!
    Shelley

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