Every week I’ll get these little emails in my inbox from Klout rating my influence. They’ll give me a number, a number that never remains steady, and will give me a plus/minus ranking for my influence over the past couple weeks. They’ll judge me off of key words, or retweets and determine what I have influence over. Coffee, motherhood, gluten free, and other things seem to make that list. Every week this computer algorithm is basing me, and my influence, off of what it sees of my online activity. If you’re on Klout, you probably get the same.
That’s not my real klout.
Well, it is in the social media world. And then I’m sure we could discuss how it’s skewed and distorted and impartial and not really a great indicator of true influence. And we could debate how real influence can’t simply be based off of a formula and that the relationships matter more.
I don’t want to live relying on a social media algorithm for a measure of influence. My measurement tool? My family. My life. Is it balanced? Rightly-ordered? Am I doing the real important?
When I came back from vacation several weeks ago, I came back to a social media world that moves at a frenzied and out of breath pace and I feel behind. The emails are piled up, there is a twitter feed bursting with tweets to respond to, the fb pages that have sat dusty. All good stuff, mind you, and I am grateful for each mention, email, tweet, pin, stumble, thought and more. But, here I am sitting on my front deck watching this flurry of activity racing by and I’m feeling hesitant to step fully into the race.
Do I spend my time chasing after klout numbers?
I think not.
My real influence? It’s now. It’s in relationships. It’s in being a mother – in being there for those blessings that call me mom. It’s in getting breakfast for them in the morning, and greeting them as they come down the stairs. It’s in learning to shut the netbook and learning to laugh more. It’s in the tangible around me and in the relationships that are formed and cultivated.
My motherhood klout? It would be found in staying up rocking a two year old and then letting him sleep next to you after he has a bad dream even though he’s the form of a human clock that rotates throughout the night. It would be in scraping together a lunch from a kitchen that has nothing and then having the kids exclaim that lunch was amazing. It’s found in getting up every morning, slapping the hair in a pony tail, walking down the stairs, starting the coffee, and doing the same thing, making the same breakfast, all again and doing it with a smile. It’s in getting on your knees in prayer. Driving everywhere. Sitting and chatting with your fourteen year old and not caring that dinner will be late.
It takes strength to not care that the living room that you cleaned up perfectly last night that was destroyed with legos by 8:14 in the morning and to announce that the creation that caused a mess was absolutely amazing and to still smile after you step on two of the legos with bare feet.
So the social media frenzy can keep moving. I’ll jump on here and there and share a quote and chat and be wise with my time. And in it all, I want to remember that my real klout, my motherhood klout with which I’m only given a limited amount of time to embrace, comes from the seven kids in my home and not an algorithm on the screen.
Motherhood Klout: No sleep survivor. Spilled Milk Cleaner. Creative Chef. Coffee Drinker. Laundry Guru. Cheerleader. Homework master. Chaser after new biker. Constant Cleaner. Baby Rocker. Listener. Bandage Applier. Swimming instructor. Swing pusher. Diaper Changer. Activity Driver. Shoulder to lean on. Perfecter of patience. Giver of unconditional love.
That’s real influence.
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Thank you for speaking to my heart … again. You are amazing!
This is so true! Thank you for this wonderful reminder!
Love this!…love you!
Thank you for this! 🙂
From a Perfecter of patience(still working on it)and a Finder of joy.
Awesome 🙂 🙂 I say you have a lot of Motherhood Klout…and you rock 🙂 🙂 Love and hugs from the ocean shores of California, Heather 🙂
I love this post…I needed this reminder, and this encouragement.
But the part about the legos messing up the room you just cleaned up, and you smile even after you stepped on two of them, made me laugh out loud! It could have been me saying that…
Hugs to you and your sweet family!
Beautiful post! Truly! I am so touched. I needed this reminder. 🙂 We all needed this reminder.
You nailed it again! There’s little doubt that when it is all said and down, your children will rise up and called you “blessed.”
Keep up the good work, those 7 children will be our leaders of tomorrow thanks to a good Momma that invested in their lives.
Hugs to you!
this is absolutely true. i have never heard of klout – guess that means i have none! ha ha. glad my kids say otherwise. : ) and i know you have major influence with your kids that will carry them so far in life. love ya, my dear!
Never heard of Klout before and it sounds pretty silly…
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Psalms 63:5-8 My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise thee with joyful lips: When I remember thee upon my bed, and meditate on thee in the night watches. Because thou hast been my help, therefore in the shadow of thy wings will I rejoice. My soul followeth hard after thee: thy right hand upholdeth me.
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Well said. 🙂 I’ve never really understood that Klout thing anyways! Super good words…
Thank you so much for these words. I needed to hear them so badly. I’ve been going through a terrible spell of mommy burnout since May. I have felt very alone in my motherhood/homeschool journey. I have been slowly trying to work my way back to where I need to be. Your blog was recommended to me by Nancy Bjorkman. This is the first time I’ve read, and it is so timely–thanks so much. Can’t wait to get on here again soon and read some older posts!
Have a blessed day.