the bottom line

by Rachel Marie Martin

Bottom line?  Life can be tedious day in and day out.  There aren’t many gold stars given to moms.  We just work and work and work.  And after awhile it’s easy to start to carry a grudge — resentment can creep in — and then the beauty of life starts to fade away.  Dishes, and reading, and laundry, and cleaning, and teaching, and all that becomes overwhelming.  Life appears to be a list of never-ending to-do items.

Bottom line? Those areas of life can be redeemed.  They can be beautiful.  For me, it’s when they’re surrendered.  It’s those breath by breath moments asking for Christ’s strength coupled with asking Him to reveal the honor and beauty in being a mom.  A wife.  A daughter.

Bottom line?  Society yearns to rob the dignity of womanhood from us.  Being a mother isn’t noble — we hear.  You’re not beautiful — screams in our faces.  You’ll never measure up — we read.  Everywhere we’re reminded of how we potentially fail.  Truth?  We’re (especially me) listening to the wrong voices.  Rather than the taunts of the world we need to be focused on truth. My barometer of self can never be measured on the world’s scale.  Ever.

Bottom line?  I failed last night.  I was crabby and discontent and overwhelmed.  To make it worse, it was on Chloe’s birthday.  Nothing like adding salt to a wound.  I was just frustrated and tired and my family knew it.

Bottom line? My night was redeemed.  Not by myself.  But in humbling myself.  Letting go of pride.  And instead focusing on the truth in Christ. It took me stepping away. Taking ten minutes by myself.  Honestly telling my kids that I needed to be alone for just a bit.  And then looking at my mistakes.  Writing.  Admitting that I’m not perfect.  Seeking forgiveness.  And starting again.

Bottom line?  I love that Christ’s mercies are new every morning.  That is fabulous news.  Especially for me…today’s bottom line? Letting go of that need for perfectionism and instead focusing on my word – content – and truly living that way.

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18 comments

carissa @ lowercase letters January 12, 2011 - 2:51 pm

You have me explained to a T… Especially lately; we’re all sick so things are harder than normal. Thank you for laying this all out so well. I’m thankful for Godly examples of Biblical womanhood, like you!

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Theresa January 12, 2011 - 3:32 pm

Great reminder again today. Thanks Rachel.

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mommara January 12, 2011 - 3:54 pm

I love this. What a beautiful reminder.

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DORCAS January 12, 2011 - 4:30 pm

I am actually going through a similar situation. I am just thankful for God’s mercies like you said. being content has been on my #1 priority list. Being thankful. It’s refreshing to be reminded on these things.

Thanks dear friend. Keeping you in my prayers. Many blessings to you!!

~Dorcas

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marlece January 12, 2011 - 4:44 pm

WHOAHOOOO! Yes, this is a struggle isn’t it? I have been reading in the bible about the influence we have to others (for me kids in particular) it’s hard to be on your ‘game’ all the time. I am grateful we have forgiving little eyes and forgiving Father! Each mercy is new each day right?

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Joanne Sher January 12, 2011 - 5:20 pm

This is absolutely beautiful, Rachel. You totally blessed me.

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amber waves of grain January 12, 2011 - 6:56 pm

I needed to read that, and you put it ever so gracefully. Thank you.

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hi-d January 12, 2011 - 9:33 pm

Such a good post! I love that we are redeemed by Christ. As our Pastor says, we are Justified…which means that it’s (just as if) we’ve never sinned.

Be Blessed!
hi-d

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Cinnamon January 12, 2011 - 9:56 pm

Such a wonderful picture of forgiveness. Often it’s my children who come up and humble me by forgiving me BEFORE I can even apologize. Love does cover a multitude of sins…..

hugs~ Cinnamon

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Kelli January 12, 2011 - 10:40 pm

My friend and I were JUST talking about this. How the world has these expectations of us and we become anxious about them or worry we’re not living up. But we’re under His grace and that is what matters. And yes, His mercy is new daily.

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Mama4Real January 13, 2011 - 12:42 am

I’m blog-slacking this week b/c I’m crazy busy, but I needed encouragement tonight and I knew that this was the place to come. Thanks for posting and being so honest. I already had a “date night” planned w/ the Father tonight, and now I’m anticipating it even more.

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Kelli January 13, 2011 - 2:37 am

So true and so very well said. Thank you for this. I needed it.

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Coby January 13, 2011 - 3:47 am

Wonderfully put! I had a similar morning, and felt myself spiraling down, away from the Lord and being content.

The wonderful thing is, the Holy Spirit grabbed ahold of me and reminded me of how much I have to be thankful for. I ran upstairs where my kids were drumming and we all started singing praise songs and, wonder of wonders…I was content once more.

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Kim January 13, 2011 - 4:29 am

My perfectionism ruins things more often than it rights them. Ironic isn’t, it? Thankful for those new mercies…not just in the morning, either because I need them (and they’re there) in the afternoon and the evening too – sometimes all in one day!

Be content…and may God lead you there when you forget!

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BARBIE January 13, 2011 - 7:10 am

Such a beautiful reminder of God’s mercies and redemptive love!

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lmworley416 January 13, 2011 - 7:17 am

More moms should do that. So many push ahead no matter what instead of taking a “time out”…taking a breath…realizing what you’re doing and admitting when you’re wrong. And oh my there will be times when you’re wrong! Way too often at this end!
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StacyA January 13, 2011 - 1:42 pm

thanks for the reminder that HIS mercies are new every morning! I so relate to how you feel. (((hugs))) friend!
Stacy

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Natalieh January 18, 2011 - 1:15 pm

Abba smiles at you a LOT, I’m sure. You are so beautiful.

I love you,
Natalieh

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