How’s that for a title?
But it’s true.
I won’t be snarky about my kids behind their backs. I just won’t. And honestly, I’m just going to put myself out there and encourage you to not either. Now listen, listen, listen…this doesn’t mean that we can’t discuss our kids or talk about the bad days or how they’re driving us crazy at times. Because, honestly, unless you have the perfect child from the What to Expect When You’re Expecting book it just doesn’t happen. I’ve tried for twenty years and yet there is still unbelievably crazy stressful trying and are you kidding me? days.
But, back to this snarky thing.
I just won’t talk poorly about them with others. Especially publicly.
I won’t. I mean look at that face. He loves me, his mom. He trusts me.
He deserves me guarding that gift.
Truthfully? I don’t think it’s fair and I really don’t think it adds to our lives – and certainly not our kids lives. I won’t call my kids brats or stupid or all the things that sometimes I read. Now, listen, I’m not judging, but I’m sharing. We all can make our choices about what we say about our kids, but I also know that what we say kind of is a guide to how we treat people. And I’ve learned in life that I want to operate out of kindness. And I want my kids to trust me to speak well of them with others.
Kids deserve respect.
They deserve us loving them and the knowledge that we’re not calling them brats behind their backs. They can do bratty things, but that does not make them as a person that name. To me, there’s such a difference between talking about parenting and the struggles and simply cutting them down. I love them too much to cut them down, friends.
I don’t even know what compelled me to write this. Maybe, just maybe I’ve seen one too many updates with cutting words about the kids. And holy moly, if it was written about me to my friends by someone I trusted I wouldn’t like it. I’d be hurt. I think we have this cool gift as moms – to be the one person in life that our kids know will stand up for them and will beyond that like them. Yes, like them.
We love them, but liking them? That’s a cool thing.
Guard that gift of being a mom.
That liking? That’s kind of a trust thing – they trust us to be the one’s who speak well of them.
They look up to us.
So with that, I don’t want to be the mom who’s talking poorly about the kids. Do you know why? I want others to think well of them too. And it starts with me.
Bad days can happen. Kids can frustrate us.
But we can love them.
With our words.