I was exhausted. Completely tired. Exhausted, but blessed. The past week has been this whirlwind of activities — Relevant, speaking at the Replenish Conference {thank you for the prayers}, travel, coming back home and catching up, visits to the Orthopedic Clinic, and well, just life.
I ran into the kitchen — my tired body trying to keep up — and started to prep dinner. After I got through the initial what on earth should we have for dinner portion I set into my work. Grabbing a red bell pepper from the fridge I proceeded to cut it into thin strips perfect for stir-frying.
Can I help cut the pepper, momma?
It was Grace. Sweet, tender ten year old Grace standing besides me asking to cut that red pepper I was racing to chop.
No, no, no Gracie. I have to get dinner made quick. Everyone is hungry.
She looked at me and pleaded with me with her expressive eyes hoping for an opportunity to help out. To be there besides me preparing dinner — cutting a pepper.
Please? I can cut it really nice. Please can I help cut the peppers?
Above my sink is a little red frame with two words handwritten in it by my oldest daughter Hannah. She wrote it shortly after Samuel was diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Live Intentional. Simple words reminding me of the importance of life and the everyday. What would matter more? That we ate at 6:15 sharp? Or that the heart of my willing and eager to serve daughter was met? I knew immediately what I was to do.
Okay, Gracie-girl, you can cut the pepper.
Immediately her posture changed as she embraced her task — finding a small knife she painstakingly sliced the thick red pepper. Thicker than I would have done, but that, that detail didn’t really matter anymore. I could hear her humming as she helped prepare the meal, beside me. She grabbed an onion and slowly did the same thing. Cut, cut, cut. And gradually a pile of vegetables began to form on our worn cutting board.
I could have done it all.
We could have ate our dinner, eating the thinly sliced peppers and moved onward. But, it would have been different. Instead it was intentional living. Looking for the joy that slicing a red pepper brings to my ten year old. It could have been missed, lost, gone leaving in it’s dust a servant’s heart in a little girl ignored.
We sat around the table with plates heaping with quinoa and chicken, red peppers, and onions. We sat there in the fellowship of family watching the sun fade into the horizon. As the last bit of autumn sky turned to darkness Todd casually remarked that the dinner was great. Sweet Grace looked up with a grinning face and whispered:
I cut the pepper, daddy. I did that.
Let them cut the peppers.
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Oh, a lesson I wish I had learned when my children were little. I’ll embrace it with my granddaughters.”Let them cut the peppers.” I love it…
oh what reminder for this mommy heart…ty my friend!
Aww, so sweet. Let them help even if life is crazy busy… I have to remember that. I hope rest is around the corner for you – maybe this weekend? Love and hugs!
Thank you for this post. It’s definitely something I need to work on too.
So lovely to have met you in real life now, a voice to this beautiful on line voice that you have.
Intentional – so important.
Great post – thank you!
This post hits close to home as I too am working on living intentionally! A weekend accident only a few miles from where we live left three young adults dead and three others injured reminding me oh, so, vividly that I MUST live life intentionally! I want to increase the joy within those I love most and generally that means just letting go of control, convenience and perfection in order for their hearts to be nurtured, fulfilled & complete!
I am constantly humbled by you. I love that you slowed down and let her help – and what confidence you gave her!!
Beautiful. You spoke into my rush, my impatience today.
Yes. I needed this today. *Thank you*, Rachel.
It was a joy to meet you at Relevant. This week, I’m dealing with some lows. I did last year, too and this year isn’t as bad.
I wonder why some of us experience this low? I know of others, too.
Anyways, I’m trying to step back into life, but not like it was – better.
Blessings!
sweet 🙂
“Live intentional”… love this reminder. And “let them cut the peppers”… I don’t have children yet, but this could easily be applied to my husband- so willing to help me, but so often shooed away. Thanks for this.
You’re such a good mama. There are too many times that I don’t let them cut the pepper. I need to let them. Tell Miss Grace that she did a fabulous job 🙂
Thank you for this reminder, Rachel – it brought tears to my eyes when you said Yes 🙂
I have been so guilty of flying through life lately and I have definitely been ignoring the opportunities to live intentionally – hopefully next time I will remember your words – “Let them cut the peppers.”
So sweet! Such a great reminder for me as well, as a sister. Thank you. 🙂
i haven’t been to your blog in a while…i love the new look friend. and this post…as always…is precious. what a good reminder to live intentionally. thanks for always encouraging me and lifting me up. xoxo!
Beautifully written. Wish I had read this about 30 years ago…
Don’t use peppers around here but ANYONE who wants to cut onions, feel free!!!!!!!!!!
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wow — would you believe me if i told you that just last night, i was wrestling internally with this very thing? (literally, with red peppers!) my almost 8-yr-old hadn’t asked to cut the peppers, but they needed to be cut — & the thought went through my mind to offer that opp. to him. and sadly, i didn’t. i maintained my self-protective fortress & kept things running on time & tidy — just like the pharisees who Jesus called white-washed tombs . . .
such providence that 8 months after you wrote this post, God drew me to it on this very day.
thank you, as always, rachel,
tanya
Awesome reminder! A very similar situation happened to me a while ago: http://manyhatsmommy.com/2011/05/02/mommy-can-i-help-you/. However, I confess I still don’t always “let them cut peppers”. Sometimes I let the rush win. Glad today is a new day!
I cannot begin to put into words the way this made me feel. You are a fantastic mother.
With tears in my eyes, I say “thank you” ….I have wasted so many years.
Just found your blog today & my eyes are full of tears, thank you for writing, thank you for this post…my little guys are 2 1/2 & almost 10 months so we’re at the very beginning of “let me help?” but oh the delight when we say ‘yes’ 🙂
I think I sometimes get confused/worried about what they can or can’t do for their age. As far as dexterity etc? There’s gotta be a list/page or reference. I hover a bit too much because sometimes idk if they should be helping do certain chores