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shine, girl, shine

Shine, girl, shine. These are the truths that I remind myself of daily. We all need them in our lives, just a moment where we can step back and be…

outsourcing dinner

That’s us above. Waiting in the Taco Bell line. Waiting because we just got finished with a sports physical. Waiting for food. Yes, fast food.  I could get after myself…

my parenting story isn’t cute anymore

My parenting story isn’t cute anymore. It’s true. I’m in those years of parenting that just are nitty-gritty-not-redeemable by instagram. It’s the middle years and the teenage years and the…

friendship isn’t effortless

Friendship takes work. Let’s just put that on the table to start, honestly. Because in today’s world of likes and hearts and instant kudos friendship can seem like it is…

why the in-between years of motherhood matter

I’m kind of in this weird spot of motherhood. Let’s just call it the not so glamorous, but still stressful, but now I’m trying to find myself place. In other…

on being a better mom

Just this morning I sat in my son’s classroom, on one of those chairs so big for the kids yet so small for me, and listened as we discussed some…

Mother’s Day Gift Guide for your Best Mom Friends

Hey friends – Mother’s Day is around the corner and it is truly one of my favorite holidays. Why? It’s the one day where we all step back and recognize…

to the mom of teens, I see you.

I used to write articles about finding peace during the toddler years. I kind of miss that advice because the put them down for a nap and take a bit…

on the outside I looked like I had it all together…

We’re going to chat about money. About hiding. About keeping up appearances. But really money. Because that is a giant space of hiding for well, probably not just me. Yes…

my kids don’t have a perfect mom. they have me.

My kids don’t have a perfect mom. They have me. Imperfect. But I try, boy, do I try. Sometimes it feels too small, not enough, like I’m letting them down.…

Describing Motherhood: Quotes from the Trenches

Motherhood is. . . I bet you could fill that in with your own description. It would probably be based on your day, honestly, as I could fill mine in…

sweet child, I don’t know if I’m ready

I remember the day you were born. It’s etched in my mind, the sun shining and piercing my eyes as we drove to the hospital, the waiting, the pain –…

life is about letting go of these 7 things….

I’ve been doing a great deal of thinking about age lately. Maybe it has to do with turning 44 and realizing that if I’m lucky I’ve lived half my life.…

dear kids, I don’t need you to be perfect

Dear kids,   You told me on my birthday you were sad you didn’t get me a present when you handed me the card that you made for me. I…

hey kids, when you see me cry

I need you to know this. I may be your mom and you may think I’m the best and strongest and most reliable person in the world, but kids, I’m…

75 Motherhood Tips from Real Mothers

There was a day when I realized I had been a mom for more that half my life. I chuckled a bit, honestly, because it really felt like I was…

what I wish my friends knew about anxiety

This is one of those posts that is hard to write. I think it’s hard because there’s a part of me that wrestles with shame about dealing with anxiety. Honestly,…

it is not my job to entertain my kids

It is not my job to entertain my kids. Yes, I want the best for them. Yes, I want them to experience great moments. Yes, I want them to have…

to the mom hiding

I see you. I’m serious. I see you, hiding.  Because in this very moment, I am there with you. I am there, hiding in my closet, with tears streaming from…

to my kids when I’ve let you down

I always wake up with good intentions.  At least I’d like to think that. Of course there are those mornings where I really don’t want to roll over and start…

they’re going to remember their mom

I wonder what my kids will remember about me. Sometimes that thought keeps me up late at night. Sometimes it wakes me in the middle of the night. I’ll wake…

Let My Kids Keep Their Wonder

original content and text by Rachel Marie Martin To use this quote and discover licensing rates please contact rachel@findingjoy.net Protected under copyright. Let my kids keep their wonder. Their excitement over…

to the mom at her limit

The other night could be what is called a mom hitting her limit as the entire world seems to come crashing in and I don’t have any options and the…

to the mom with a broken heart

To the mom with a broken heart…   That’s my oldest son in the picture below. He was maybe six there. When he was little and I was the best…

Konmari – three years later

First of all, if you haven’t started the Konmari method, no worries about needing to start. This is about my experience, especially since so many people see all these methods…

You are stability, you are strength

original content and text by Rachel Marie Martin To use this quote and discover licensing rates please contact rachel@findingjoy.net Protected under copyright. Sometimes you may wonder if all the mothering you…

the tooth fairy, the elf and the good mom

Every morning, for the past three days, my son, Elijah, has come into my room and told me that the tooth fairy must have forgotten again to retrieve his tooth…

dear mom, this is why you are not failing

The alarm rings before the morning sun dares to grace the horizon. It’s so dark, so early, and I am just so tired. I stay there, in the dark, waiting…

19 Powerful Truths to Live By

For years I’ve written about things I’m letting go of or things I’m changing or things I need to do. This year, instead of focusing on those aspects of life…

“for all the right reasons”

I recently watched Matt Damon open up Saturday Night Live and he gave a beautiful tribute to his dad, Kent Damon, who passed away a year earlier. In his words…

to the mom who keeps going

This is for you. Yeah, you. You might think it’s no big deal. You might not even realize the power in your ability to keep going. But I see you.…

hey tired mom of teens, this is for you.

There’s a ridiculously lonely space in motherhood. I call it the space between little kids and graduated kids. Also know as the teenage years, but that seems to earn it’s…

“you know, you’re not in Kansas anymore…”

I’ve lived in crisis most of my life. Divorce. Bankruptcy. Money issues. Single parenting. Moving. Celiac Disease. Just a bunch. And normal regular kid-mom-life stuff mixed in. It’s been easy…

I’m a mom and I gave up wine. This is why.

My life coach told me to write about the places that I’d like to avoid. She told me those are the places that others need a voice, a kind hand,…

to my teen who has left me

I still love you. I don’t know how else to say it other than with those words. I added still because I’m thinking you might be worried that my love…

Children JUST MIGHT remember their best day of television

“Children don’t remember their best day of television” That’s a quote I just read that I think we should have a conversation about. And at first, when I read a…

embracing a hustle-less holiday

I made up that word. Hustle-less. I think for most of my life I look at December and instantly feel the anxiousness of the month come upon my already rather…

when you feel alone…

Okay. Listen. There are some of you right now who are so tired of cliche, pull-up-your boot straps, just smile and be positive kind of answers. I know. I used…

what single moms need friends to know during the holidays

I’ve been a single mom for almost six years now. Part of me can’t believe it’s been that long and other parts of me are still raw. And most of…

if people don’t like you for being real….

The other day I was driving my daughter to work. We were late, it was pouring rain, and someone pulled out in front of me and out of my mouth…

to the mom holding hands, one last time

I’m not good at last times. I’m much much better at the firsts even though I know the firsts will lead to lasts. Today, in a whisper, shh, because I…

to my kids – the raw truth of being a single mom

There are many days where I wake up and I think I’ve failed. Let’s just start with that, okay? I just do. Even though life is rightly-ordered now and healthier,…

to you, sweet mom, when you are anxious

It is okay. I know you might not even know why you are anxious. I know you might worry that you are dropping the ball with your kids. I know…

The Gift of Being Overly-Sensitive

I am overly-sensitive. Let’s start with that fact, that truth about who I am as a person. I used to be overly sensitive about being overly sensitive. That’s another fact,…

sometimes you have to let go of the picture…

This is the original quote written by Rachel Marie Martin Inspired by the book The Brave Art of Motherhood “Sometimes you have to let go of the picture of what…

dear kids, I am your place to land.

I am your place. I am your place to land in this world. My door is always open, my heart there for you, I am safe. I know that there…

“I am still going to be nice…”

I saw him get off the bus. I knew immediately, the way we moms just know, that something was wrong. I could see him trying to keep it together, but…

to the mom afraid to hope

It’s such a lonely place. I know, my friend, I know. This is a safe space here, a sacred conversation between you and me, not filled with expectations and judgements…

The Brave Art of Motherhood

Several years ago my best friend Maria and I attended one of those paint and sip classes. The room was filled with people all painting the same image, following the…

the pan and the good mom lie

I have this pan. I hate it really. It’s worn and beat up. The surface that was supposed to not show scratches shows ridges etched within. It’s really quite ugly,…

sweet kids, I have always loved you…

sweet kids. I have always loved you. Like always. Sometimes even with the love I wonder. I wonder what you remember. I wonder if you think that your mom tried…

unmasking church

I grew up in the church. I don’t remember a Sunday, except when the Minnesota snow was thick and heavy and the radio station announced closings, that we didn’t make…

There isn’t a perfect mom, a perfect house.

original content and text by Rachel Marie Martin To use this quote and discover licensing rates please contact rachel@findingjoy.net Protected under copyright. There isn’t a perfect mom, a perfect house, a…

dear kids, you are not a number

original content and text by Rachel Marie Martin To use this quote and discover licensing rates please contact rachel@findingjoy.net Protected under copyright. Dear kids,  You are not a number.  The world…

to my kids, what I need you to know about friends

You are  great kids. Like super awesome. You make me smile, even though you test me at times. And because I love you so dearly, so deeply, there are truths…

the power of simply being their mom

Today in an auditorium full of parents my son scanned the room looking for me. When he saw me his face lit up the room. He wasn’t looking for the…

mom, unplugged.

Unplugged. It sounds so novel, so cool, so hip. It feels so hard to do. But for one week, I leave my busy, my frenzy and I try desperately to…

Four Reasons to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself as a Mom

First, before we even get into these reasons, I need to tell you to do something. And that something is to step back, for one moment, and to breathe. Chances…

to my kids, please just be you.

I wish I had learned this when I was younger, honestly. I wish I had learned it when I was your age. But I don’t think I started getting comfortable…

why your mistakes in motherhood matter

I have made so many many mistakes in motherhood. I could list them all for you if you’d like. Maybe you’d like to see a list so you can breathe…

to you, when you feel like you fail

My grandmother once told me she felt trapped inside an old person’s body. I never understood, really, especially when I was younger. I kind of chuckled at it when I…

to the mom who lost her heart

I want you to find it again. That’s the first thing I need you to read. I need you to have a spark of hope of encouragement, but more than…

hey moms, you do not have to enjoy every moment.

You know how hindsight is so clear? Well, that goes for motherhood as well. Please do not try to enjoy every single moment. I am not going to tell a…

when the tassel flips

Always a mother. In early June I watched my oldest daughter graduate from college. As I stared down in the auditorium, I felt my heart race when I couldn’t find…

the thunderstorm seasons of life

The last eighteen months of my life have been this mixture of awesome and fear and joy and sadness and a whole bunch of new. When I packed my family…

moms, please stop judging minutia

I’ve been a mom a long time. I’d like to think my mom skin is thick and that most of the debatable things of motherhood cannot penetrate into my heart…

in motherhood you fake it until you make it

So many people have come up to me and told me I’m a good mom. I smile, but inwardly I chuckle and then I groan. As they’re telling me my…

this is what unedited motherhood looks like

This is unedited motherhood. That’s my little boys’ closet. This weekend I spent an hour in that closet – going through clothes, folding them, cleaning it up. Last night they…

the life changing secret of bamboo motherhood

Curious? Bamboo motherhood? Well, let me tell you this -> I almost titled this post how to be a calmer and more chill mom and then I changed it to…

I hide ice cream. And other truths about motherhood.

When my girls were little I would buy Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream. I’d hide it in the cart, tuck it under the frozen fries, sneak it into the house,…

sisterhood, shame and messy sinks…

Sometimes I feel like I’m pretending at motherhood. Yes, even after all these years. Pretending. But I don’t want anyone to see that, honestly, that stumbling around, that fumbling, so…

what no one tells you about motherhood

Heres’s a secret: I’m not a bad mom. I’m not. But I’m going to speak about those places where we just stay quiet too often. About those days of motherhood…

How to Survive the Summer When You Work at Home

First, I’m super grateful to be able to work from home. I love most moments with my kids. Not the fighting over who ate all the marshmallows out of the…

I stopped chasing normal

My calendar frustrates me. All the things on it. I keep telling myself “I just want normal” and then look at my schedule and the schedule feels a bit like…

the power of simply being their mom

Original words, written by Rachel Marie Martin, author of FindingJoy.net today in an auditorium full of parents my son scanned the room looking for me. when he saw me his…

the good mom secret

I’ve been a mom for over twenty years. People think because of that magical double decade number that I’ve discovered the secret of being a good mom. Or a creative…

hey kids, this is what to expect at the end of the school year.

You can expect this: Me. Showing up. But I probably won’t be perfect. In fact, I am going to tell you I’m not perfect. I’m sure you haven’t seen all…

i was the mom running on empty

For many years I thought running on empty was just what we did as moms. I kind of thought it a noble badge of motherhood – that ability to give…

you are greater than any test

To my kids, and all the kids in the midst of standardized testing: You are greater than any test. Let me repeat that: You are GREATER than any test. It…

and with that….the bath toys are forever gone.

Today, I did the simplest thing. I was scrounging my house for things to put in our garage sale and walked through my bathroom, looked at the tub, and thought,…

“you are so annoying, mom”

I don’t think I thought I would ever write that title. But, the truth is this: I’m an annoying mom. To my kids. Especially my teens. I didn’t set out…

dear mom, find your family’s own groove.

I just read this article with a title of “stop gaslighting your kids” or something like that…and while I know it has critical information and I know it’s aiming to…

seriously, I’m not ready to embrace the gray.

So, I’m going to be totally real. This might seem silly, but today, after I had my hair cut and colored I booked a follow up visit. My stylist and…

to my friends, please don’t pretend.

Hey friends of mine. I need you to hear something. I love you for you. I’m asking you to not wear the masks, to not pretend, to be the real…

motherhood doesn’t end at eighteen

“Just make it to eighteen.” That seems to be the unspoken goal of motherhood. After all there are charts after charts of the growing up years. Memes about times. Quotes…

the last times

Sometimes the last times wash over my heart like a wave. The last time feeling their little hand tucked in mine as we navigated across the parking lot. The last…

seriously, cleaning and scrubbing can’t wait until tomorrow

Listen to me. For real. This is about the moments. And feeling the pressure to have to grab every single one. So first, the obvious. Despite the poem about babies…

PSA: I quit being a “yes” mom

I’m just not a “yes” mom. I wrote years and years ago about how I wanted to be that mom. It became like a notch on the mom ladder that…

why our family loves social media

I fought too much media use for most of my motherhood journey. But then, life happened, motherhood happened, and in the process I realized that fighting electronics – phones and…

I am the mom I said I never would be

I don’t know how it happened, honestly. But, it totally, one hundred percent, happened. So let’s just cut to the chase. First, there are fruit snacks in my cupboard, and…

confessions of a single mom

I didn’t ever think this would be my story. I think that’s how I want to start. I didn’t step into motherhood thinking you know what? Someday I want to…

you have no idea how hard I try

Sweet sweet, sometimes not so sweet kids of mine, I have something you need to know. I want you to know how hard I try. I really need you to…

uncluttered motherhood

I have a secret. Well, it’s not really that juicy awesome kind of secret that makes everyone wonder. It’s more of that motherhood secret that we all have that we…

this is why moms are so tired

Lately it feels as if most days my head is below water and in the moments I get a breath, it’s a gulp of a breath, not that inhale with…

when you’re in that tough season of motherhood.

I see you. I get it. I know how it feels to not be able to get that full breath in. I understand how the voices in your head and…

“I’m always here for you.” Be their constant.

It’s so easy to love those kids of ours when they are little. When the biggest issue tends to be bedtime or that their shirt has tags on it or…

RSVP, please.

Okay. We have to do better than this. We just must. This is so so important. We have to be the village, friends. We have to STEP UP. See that…

to the mom always a step behind

That’s me. That’s my always feeling overwhelmed step behind motherhood journey. Always always playing catch-up. Always running. Always denying sleep. Always giving. Always feeling as if I could just get…

I give my heart to motherhood, why doesn’t it feel enough?

  We were driving in the van, me the driver, focusing on the road. The light was red. I stared at it, trying to will the tears back in my…

the blessing of a messy house

Let me just start off with telling you all I’m kind of a neat freak. Wait. I get anxious when my counters have stuff on them so that would really…

the split second of motherhood

I sat across from her. The girl, my daughter, the girl who is now no longer a girl, but a woman. I looked at her. At the hair I used…

the permission of silence

I’ve craved silence as a mom. Don’t we all? We live in constant movement, constant doing, constant noise. Oh silence. I’ve written about it, joked about it, spoken in front…

the gift of socks on the stairs

My kids come home from school, kick off their shoes, throw their socks and leave their bags in the front entryway. It can become a walking hazard due to the…

seeing the sacred of the in-between

Sometimes I simply see the mess. The dishes in the sink, the wrappers on the ground, the stuff left to do, the bills in the pile, the homework stacked. I’m…

what I was meant to write

Tonight, as I crawled from my bedroom to my bathroom, I realized how much I took for granted my life. Tonight, as I put my head on the ground and…

don’t dismiss the “big deals”

Seriously, potty training, it’s not that big a deal. Middle school? Not a big deal. Those teacher conferences? They’re not a big deal. You haven’t started Christmas shopping yet? You’ll…

know the details

Today I was driving back from my little ones’ school after dropping them off. The radio was playing, the sun was peeking through the trees and as the mile to…

my three prayers for the holidays

The holidays can be hard. I’m just going to come out and tell you that while the world is putting up twinkling lights I’ve found myself bracing myself for some…

when I was six years old

When I was six I was molested at my daycare. It has taken me 36 years to write that and to speak that without shame. I blamed myself for so…

just so you all know…

I’m human. My life is messy. My kids aren’t perfect. My house isn’t always clean. Sometimes I’m late. Sometimes I yell (and I hate that part). I deal with anxiety.…

sometimes you just need to make it through

I’m writing this with a glass of wine, on a Friday, sitting next to my son who is building a lego set, after I served my family a frozen dinner.…

if you feel alone in motherhood, remember this…

1. Your kids will turn out even if you’re not perfect. For real. In fact, remember that your kids choices are not a reflection of your parenting skills. Those kids…

the tunnel

I get impatient with my kids when they can’t get over stuff. I don’t understand why learning the thirteen colonies and spelling them is frustrating. I’m also not ten. But…

Amen, You are a Good Mom

This week we had spaghetti three times. As I stood looking at the pot of noodles beginning to boil I began to tell myself that I was a bad mom…

listen. seriously, just do YOUR best

I think I mothered for the first half of my motherhood story completely afraid someone would discover that I had no clue what to do. I mean, trust me, I…

why there are no pictures

This morning I thumbed through Instagram’s Explore feed. I shouldn’t have. At least not this morning. Not on the morning of crazy and school and homework and plates left out…

cheers to an ordinary motherhood

I have a closet full of clothes. I’ll stand in it, look at the options, turn to the right and grab my black yoga pants. The ones I wore yesterday…

the tomorrow today dare

I lived a life for many years waiting for tomorrow. Tomorrow I’ll start running. Tomorrow I’ll call that friend. Tomorrow I’ll read that book. Tomorrow I’ll tackle that room. Tomorrow…

to the worn out mom

I see you. I see how tired you are. I see how you feel at the end of your rope. I see the exhaustion. I see the stuff to be…

what happened to the village?

Over the past week I’ve read several articles that, well, to put it bluntly judged other moms. One was about a mom in the airport who placed her baby on…

why bento boxes don’t make a mom

A bit of mom reality. Bento boxes included. The other day my middle schooler came home from school and told me he got a a demerit because he was laughing…

when you find yourself a single mom

This is what I want you to know. First, I know you’re probably scared. I get that scared part. It’s a kind of scared that’s hard to describe – it’s…

don’t take this personally…

There are certain things in my home that drives me nuts. Toilet paper and garbage. My kids have this superhuman ability to completely ignore garbage and toilet paper. If the…

what to actually expect when you’re a mom

Some truth. Because without truth we deprive ourselves of the oxygen of grace. This is what being a mom is really about. 1. Expect to not have all the answers. Nope.…

the mom excuse that needs to stop

Let’s call this your wake up call. Please stop excusing taking care of you. You take care of your kids, right? I know, or at least I guess, that you’re…

How to Give Your Kids a 21st Century Summer

Yes. Enough with the 1970’s and 1980’s summer posts. (They’re nice, but I’m busy, and I can’t handle any more pressure….) So I’m saying, please, just enough. It was in…

“mom, take a break.”

That’s what my seven year old told me last night. I really didn’t realize he was watching me the way he was in that moment. Well, I should have, because…

motherhood, exposed.

For most of my life I’ve hid. I’ve hidden behind layers of externals – behind I’m fine and no big deal and flowers planted out front and throw pillows placed…

hotdogs, sunscreen and all the other ways I’m messing up.

Sometimes I just want simple. Easy. Hotdogs on the grill with mustard and ketchup and chips and beans kind of easy. But the grill probably has carcinogens and the hotdogs…

why my son’s teacher changed his life

Dear Mrs. Smotherman, I don’t even know how to start. Every time I try, tears fill my eyes and I have to stop. So I will just tell you this:…

my kids matter more than my ego

Last week my son was sent home a flyer about a special reading camp at school. I immediately felt badly. I tucked it back in his backpack with the “tell…

Mother’s Day Brunch Lessons

My love/hate relationship with Mother’s Day happened when my little girls were young. At brunch. A Mother’s Day Brunch. It seems nice on the outside, but I quickly learned, in…

the pancakes for dinner dare

the dare is coming, but you need to read this to understand… I just want to tell everyone to slow down. My goodness I probably would have told myself to…

to the mom at target

I’m sorry I wasn’t the village. This is why. It will be okay. That’s what I wanted to tell you. I wanted to tell you that while you snipped at…

“it will never happen to me”

I think most of our lives we read about tragedies and hard stuff and breathe a sigh of relief and think that it will never happen to us. It’s easy…

in the end…it’s just stuff.

My van caught on fire today. Within ten minutes of pulling onto the side of the road after my van died it proceeded to be entirely engulfed in flames. That’s…

the lesson of burnt cookies

I learned the perfect time to make cookies after I burnt cookies. I learned how to change a diaper with just two wipes after I forgot to purchase wipes. I…

why I make my bed every single day

(okay, almost every day…) Let’s get one thing straight – it’s not about impressing anyone. It really isn’t. My room, in case you are wondering, is often the what? people…

the hidden power of an egg

Hear me out. Today a fried egg reminded me of the power of motherhood. I know, an egg. But listen, lately I’ve been making my boys fried eggs before school.…

surviving motherhood jenga

My life feels like it’s precariously stacked at times. Like one wrong move and the whole thing will tumble down and fall apart. Motherhood especially. And in that jenga state…

the life changing secret of overwhelm

I hate overwhelm. I think at least once a week or once a day or maybe twice a day I’ve sent a text or message to a friend describing how…

hey you, the worn out mom who wonders what really matters…

Before my oldest was born I read all the books. They didn’t prepare me for this: There are days when my eyes start closing before my head hits the pillow.…

why Amazon Prime Now saved my sanity (or at least dinner)

I rarely write about sites and shopping, other than Target (which I love) and Starbucks (which I need stock in) but today my world was ROCKED. I mean rocked, rocked,…

a short mantra of truth for the mom who worries

it’s short. because we don’t have that much time in our day. print it. tape it on your mirror. and remember. one: worrying doesn’t make you a bad mom, it…

why the numbers lie

My whole life I’ve had a fascination with numbers. Wait. Confession, not a fascination, but probably rather an obsession. I’ve always thought them to be totally the truth. After, all,…

why I totally broke tradition

I broke the rules of my own life today. It was Easter and for my entire life I’ve gone to church. Now, before you think that this is about me…

how clearing clutter made me a better mom

Over the past year I purged over 70% of everything I owned. Yes. It might even be more, but most of it. This is why: For years I managed stuff.…

dear homework, I need a break.

I think the end of the school year is most welcomed by me. Not my kids, but me. It’s homework. It makes me go crazy sometimes. First of all, let’s…

just do the dishes. please. the kids will be fine.

Listen. Before you get all panicked that this is another one of those articles that tells you to ignore the dishes until tomorrow because babies grow up to our sorrow…

why i started running

I used to hate running. I’d start, run a couple feet, maybe a block, then stop. It really bothered me. I’d put it off on how I could only do…

a “so blessed” pause

So maybe this isn’t cool to say or write about. But I’m going to. Because I want to be a voice or truth and perspective and maybe this just might…

why i stopped defending my choices as a mom

For years I traveled for work. For years I was met with this question isn’t it hard on your kids for you to be gone so much? (For years my…

if you forgot that motherhood is a work in progress…

Then I need you to breathe. Yes, breathe. Set down all the worries and fears and good mom stuff… And then read this. You see, I wanted to be perfect…

the day I found out my son had mono

Was today. It kind of started off as just another one of those mom days where we don’t realize our strength or impact until it was done. In fact, sweet…

how to love your kids well

The other night my seven year old Samuel came into my room, touched my head, announced that I felt warm and decided to take care of me. He got water,…

yeah, parenting teens is crazy hard

I’ll just say it. Parenting teens is one of the hardest thing I’ve done. It’s not like being a mom to little ones isn’t hard, but typically those little ones…

I always saw the mud until happiness became my mission

Seriously? Why did you boys make that mess? Now I have to clean and rewash the floor that I just spent the morning cleaning. And the mud on your shoes?…

the pressure cooker of panic attacks

it took me a bit to put this on the site — shame does that — but speaking up breaks shame and brings healing. and that’s why I’m sharing these…

breathe sweet mom

Breathe sweet mom. Your kids need you. Not perfect. But you. With your worries. And your laughs. And your fails. And your try agains. Your love. Your showing up. That’s…

breaking up with the “not right now” mom

Not right now… That’s me. I’m the not right now mom and I’m really tired of it. In fact, I’m so tired of being that mom that I’m breaking up…

stumbling through motherhood

I have stumbled a bunch in all the years I’ve been a mom. Like today. Like yesterday too. Like the years and months before. My one son is struggling at…

how wanting to get even robbed me of happiness

I have a confession. Sometimes when people hurt me I don’t like to turn the other cheek. I want to get even. I want them to feel the hurt or…

I LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT.

I love you. Those were the words I said rather loudly to my seven year old Samuel as he stood by his window with his fingers smashed into his ears…

8 Things Fearless Moms Do

To live fearless means to decide that today is a gift, that the past was a lesson but to let it go, and that tomorrow is an amazing opportunity. To…

Carry on, Brave Mother, carry on

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“how did this become my story?”

You know that phrase when life hands you lemons make lemonade? Well, I think that goes for most of life. Motherhood included. Do you remember thinking about life and motherhood…

how to not miss a motherhood

It feels like yesterday when I sat in my grandmother’s living room with my newborn daughter, Hannah. This was my sweet grandmother who would love to braid my hair and…

to the mom with anxiety

I just want to let you know that you’re not alone. I know it feels like one of those places in life where you want to hide—where you want to…

how to be (mis)understood

Start with a thought that you want to share. Think of a friend, then: 1) Write an email, text or message. Hit send. 2) Wait for the response. Sometimes this…

hang on, sweet mom, hang on

Sometimes I want to escape. Like sometimes I sit in my home and I totally want to lock myself up in my room and run away to a beach in…

to the mom struggling

I don’t think we like to admit we’re struggling. I don’t know what made you dare to click the link to read this article. Maybe it was the glimpse of…

to the mom at her capacity…

I don’t know how to describe the noise. Sometimes it feels like I’m in the middle of a room full of needy people all complaining, whining, grumbling or upset with…

how to get unstuck

I remember. I remember looking around at my house – at the chaos and piles of bills and the doubting of myself – and simply feeling unbelievably overwhelmingly alone. Alone.…

finding joy, live fully

I want to live a life lived. That’s what I want told about me. Not about a life of fear. A life held back by worry. A life with risk.…

one last book

In the light of the moon a little egg lay on a leaf… Read to me, mom? It was The Very Hungry Caterpillar. A book that I’ve owned for over…

sometimes my worst enemy is me

You are such a joke. That’s what I heard when I was late for school on the first day of my kids’ new school and my first grader forgot his…

for those days when you’re pulled in every direction

Today I cried in the school drop off/pick up line. Now, before you shake your head and think that I need to get it together or blame everyone else in…

sometimes you just don’t know what to do and that’s okay.

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the two minute grateful list project

Here’s all you need to do: 1. Download your copy for your personal use -> 2 Minute Grateful List 2. Set the timer for two minutes (that’s it) and record…

how to start being happy again (4 Ways)

Last year we all kind of admitted we weren’t too happy. Or maybe we all did because I Forgot How to Be the Happy Mom has almost a million likes.…

When you stop fearing change you start living.

A year ago. A year ago I was different. I know we all are, right? But trust me when I tell you that I really was. I thought I was…

why I don’t write about dads

Several times a week I get notes wondering why I don’t include dads in my articles. The responders are sometimes dads, sometimes moms, sometimes just curious and sometimes down-right accusatory.…

i was going to skip Christmas this year

I totally was. (I feel like I need to whisper that…hahah) Not because I’m Scrooge, really. But more, that I really didn’t want to be bothered with it. It seemed…

how to be a hero

Heroes come from the simplest of places. Can we talk about shame for a minute? I think that most of us don’t want to talk about those things in life…

falling in love with motherhood again

Feel like you’re stuck in motherhood? Me too. This is my story: Right now I am sitting by my third grader who has to copy a final draft on his…

why I need you to be brave

I feel numb. I think that’s the emotion that I can relate to most this year. It’s a kind of numb that is self-induced, in a way. Have you ever…

the worst mom ever who cares

Me last night. Do you think if I really didn’t care about you I would spend so much time getting after you about your homework? Huh? (I added the huh…

one day it will be still

I’ve become the mom so caught up in the busy. So caught up in checking off the next thing on the list. Of mumbling okays and uh-huhs and not really…

shake the snow globe

Once I was little. Dreaming of motherhood and life. Dreaming of simplicity. Of snowflakes and music and happy. Spinning around. Dancing. Shake the snow globe. Reset. Again. And again. Flakes…

a mom that shows up day after day

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i thought i was invincible

I thought I was invincible. I thought I had it all together and could stay on top of everything. I mean, after all, this was the week where I wasn’t…

sometimes it is just good to laugh. #KevinCanWaitAt8

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a real mom

Imagine. Imagine motherhood without judging. Without the fear of measuring up or doing enough or having it all or being this size or the kids doing everything or you not…

someone told me

…that life was made of moments. I didn’t believe them. I worked hard to be the good mom instead. Scrubbing finger prints from windows and handprints from walls. Wiping down…

to the mom who feels like she’s drowning

You are not alone. I just want you to know that before you read one more word. And if you can’t even read another word because it just feels like…

a good failing giving and yet enough mom

This morning after I dropped my kids off at school I drove home, pulled into my driveway and just sat in my van staring out the window wondering what in…

words about those vitamins, snacks, checklists, frozen meals, and all the other questions that make you go slightly crazy in motherhood.

I read this Facebook post about this mom spending 45 minutes attempting to determine what vitamins her kids needed and finding out she would spend upwards of a $100 on…

breaking the silence of parenting alone

I told myself I wouldn’t write about this struggle. It felt too personal, too vulnerable and too open, I guess. I didn’t really want to expose that part of my…

to the mom who feels like she’s not good enough

That’s me today, in case you were wondering. I’m kind of sitting here with eyes welled up with tears and a counter of dishes to be cleared and laundry folded…

because of love

Because of love. I have days that go in a circle. I feel like I get nothing done. I pray for the wisdom of Solomon to solve debates between you.…

she was me

Last year I was in Washington, DC, standing in the front of a conference room speaking to several hundred moms. I was ready. I had slides, with pretty pictures and…

to all the mommas with littles still at home

This is really important. I mean super important, and I know you’ll hear it, but you need to stop, just for a second (catch your breath) and read these words.…

when it’s just you writing the parenting story

I was pushing my cart in Target. It was one of those overflowing back to school kind of carts. The carts with the 48 count of pencils, three ring binders…

unlocking bravery

Some words about bravery.   Oftentimes I’m called brave and asked how in the world I can be so brave. Well here’s the truth.   Bravery isn’t a one time…

surrendering to karma

I just don’t care. Are those the right words to say? To write? To share? Are they the words that garner the shares and likes or are the the words…

love yourself

  A couple weeks ago I stood in front of several hundred women and told them I had an identity crisis and that my hair color fiasco – going from…

priceless

Tonight I told my fifteen year old daughter Grace to turn the oven to 450degrees so that we could have frozen pizzas for dinner. Gourmet, right? I was tired. Like…

to the mom who feels stuck

I’m just going to be real. I think I’ve lost me a bit in the last year. I’ve spent so much time making sure everyone else is happy and good…

why i quit pretending to have it all together

I quit so I could have the courage to write this so that you could quit and could encourage your friends to quit because well, the truth is, we have…

ditching the “perfect” mask of motherhood

For most of my life I wanted perfect. When the girls were little Martha Stewart was my hero. I don’t even think seeing her in an orange prison jumper distorted…

the moment that I quit

You are a quitter. Those are the words that were told to me several weeks ago. Those were the words spat at me, without thought or care or worry, but…

why i won’t be snarky about my kids

How’s that for a title? But it’s true. I won’t be snarky about my kids behind their backs. I just won’t. And honestly, I’m just going to put myself out…

the eleven step program for instant mom happiness

I’ve been in a bit of a funk lately. Whatever, who am I kidding here? It’s been a whole lot of a big funk lately that dozens of caramel macchiatos…

perspective

So you think you’ve messed up motherhood? Have a list of things that you’ve done wrong? Places you want a do-over? So did I. This is just one of the…

Happy Mom Secrets Six: “Clean Yourself”

I love this. Perhaps because I just cleaned under the beds. Or perhaps because sometimes there is a trail of stuff in my house leftover. Or because I found a…

a good mom

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just mother

I saw a video that jolted me out of my funk today. It was by Gary Vaynerchuk (language if you have kids) and it was about the idea of stop…

the end of the school year truth

It was nine months ago. All of us. In so many different ways. Some of us, like me, were standing in the doorway saying our goodbyes to those kindergarten kids…

I love, so I listen

I listen. I listen to the doubts in my head. I listen to the joys. I listen to them breathe. I listen to them argue too. I listen to their…

once

Once I dreamed about being a mom. Once I thought about how perfect the days would be. Once I labored and brought to this world a screaming and wailing newborn.…

when I felt like I wasn’t a good mom

(I wrote this ten days ago in the middle of a 21 day business trip. 21 days. And then my computer broke and it’s taken me forever to get it…

to the mom who feels defeated

I’ve found it hard to write lately. It’s almost as if my voice has been constricted – tightened with fear – fear of writing the wrong thing – fear of…

shouting “enough” to the endless decisions of motherhood

Why is this so hard? That’s what I get told often. Often when I make a decision, actually. Or when that stuff that causes anxiety creeps into my mind and…

78 Ways to Be Happier

Little things that can make our journey just a bit happier. It’s about motherhood, friendships and life. Because, well, after all, who doesn’t want to feel happier? 1. Sometimes being…

when the only way forward is not turning back

I’m a muller of the past. Maybe mulling isn’t even a strong enough word. I think percolating might be better, except my percolating doesn’t ever seem to stop. I used…

what I need to say about anxiety

I have moments of anxiety. It’s not an all the time thing, but when it’s there – it’s there. You all know it if you read deep enough or if…

The best videos about moms we can laugh and cry with

Think of this as your “go-to” collection of videos for those days when you need a reminder of all that you do. This short story that took place in a…

“I’m worried about you, mommy”

Tonight I kind of lost it. Years of stuff, that build up stuff, just percolated to the surface and I cried and cried and cried.  Sobs, my friends, sobs. And…

underneath

Underneath it all there is a girl who still doubts herself at times. Who worries if she’s doing a good job or if she’s a good mom. Who worries about…

why the woman staring back at you in the mirror is worth fighting for

La’Porsha from American Idol had me in tears. In tears because sometimes I still doubt my courage or my strength or my bravery. I think it’s so easy to just…

counting the minutes until bedtime days

Tonight I lost it. Well, kind of in the you all go to bed and let me be kind of way. Over the remote. The lost remote to the DVD/Blu-Ray/Online…

10 Ways to Find Yourself Again in Motherhood

So I wrote this post about us as moms not forgetting ourselves (that’s a link to it). And, well, it resonated. Like big time. And I’ve received request after request…

going through the motions of motherhood days

Sometimes I think if I can just get through today. It’s like survival, really. Actually, if I’m being honest with myself and with you all, there are way more than…

you mothered today

Tonight I sat on my couch, put my head in my hands, felt a tear fall and told my kids to all go to bed. Immediately. With no dessert, no…

my worst critic missed life’s real beauty

I’m kind of vain, I think. hahaha. Who am I kidding? I am MY WORST CRITIC. I am the one who will go to a speaking engagement with back up…

the fear that our friends will leave us

Several years ago I wrote about a post called Dear Sweet Mom Who Feels Like She is Failing. It went viral. Like over a million views of a whole bunch…

you are worth finding yourself again in motherhood

The eyes. I recognized the eyes that stared back at me. They were mine. But they were tired. They were eyes of a woman who lost her heart, I think.…

“why don’t you laugh much, mom?”

Well, maybe not why they need to laugh, but more of why moms should laugh. Once my now five year old who was then four years old looked at me…

don’t be sorry, brave warrior mom

I’m sorry. That’s what I’ll say when I’m really feeling the weight of a busy life. I know you get it. You know it’s those days when you just feel…

the free falling truth about motherhood

I didn’t want to hear anyone say Mom for the next five minutes. I just had enough. Enough fighting, enough cleaning, enough of the same thing. Enough of the battle,…

the roller coaster of motherhood

  This is the rollercoaster of motherhood: rollercoaster: I understand that you might look at other moms in the grocery store sometimes and you feel jealous because they have so…

to the frustrated mom

For six months my six year old has gone to school without a problem. Well, at least most mornings. And then, in the last week or two, going to school…

don’t let fear rob you of space for joy

I don’t really like endings of things. Well most things. I don’t mind when the holidays are over and I get to put everything away and the house seems huge.…

why having kids means having messes

This morning I walked into my bathroom, shut the door and simply sighed. I wasn’t trying to escape. I wasn’t counting to ten. I wasn’t even frazzled yet. I sighed…

letting go of doing it all

I’m letting go of doing it all. Instead, I’m just going to live. I’m going to let myself have space to stumble, to fall, to fail, to try, to love,…

the gift of being expected

Today, at 1:48, I stopped designing graphics and answering emails, shut my computer, grabbed my gloves, my keys, threw my coat on and got in my freezing, and I mean…

the real beauty underneath

I’ve heard this song so many times and loved it. And then I watched the video and the tears fell. Sometimes it feels as if so much of life is…

the birthday of a mom

When I was a kid I couldn’t sleep the night before my birthday. I’d go to bed thinking that it was going to be the best day ever – I’d…

40 Life Truths I Learned Being 40

I wanted to write a profound post about the first year in this new decade of being 40. I was hoping for words to inspire or to motivate or to…

10 Things to Let Go of Today

In case you’re wondering that picture above is of the over 40 bags of stuff in my subzero garage that are waiting to be either sold or donated. That much…

how to really say “i love you” in a digitally saturated world

The other day my son Samuel came in my room, hopped on my bed and hugged me. I love you mommy. And then he popped down, asked for a snack…

the infinite unspoken value of the tired mom

Sometimes I think that I don’t realize how tired I really am everyday. I push and push and push and push through. I’m fine will come out of my mouth…

letting go takes work

I’ve discovered that following the principles of the life-changing magic of tidying up isn’t just a phase but is rather a complete life-style shift in thought. It may seem to…

let them end the hug

Tonight I want you to try something. I want you to let your kids end the hug. Yes, very simple, but incredibly powerful. You see, tomorrow before the sun rises…

me too, sister

Please do not judge me but…my marriage, my kids, my patience, my creativity, my budget, my house, my appearance, my goals, my car, my dreams, my tongue, my friends, my…

Konmari Hack Your Life

This week I ran into a snag in the Konmari method. Yeah, you know last week I did all my clothes and all of that, but then I discovered moving…

7 Critical Rules for Surviving the Bad Motherhood Days

1. You are not allowed to define yourself as a mom based on this day. Bad days happen. A bad day doesn’t make you a horrible mom – it’s just…

I am not broken

I have been called too emotional. Or someone who doesn’t get over stuff quickly. I’ve been told that I need a thicker skin or that I just shouldn’t take stuff…

you are a great mom just the way you are

  Tears. Tonight was Reading Night at my kindergartener’s school. All week he’s been talking about it – been ready and set and could hardly wait. We weren’t originally going…

just a mom days

Today I was just a mom. A mom that woke to the sound of the alarm and her phone and rolled out of bed, stumbled down the stairs and started…

your heart does not belong in the junk drawer

I’m a pretty happy person. Well, I don’t like it if my latte is handed to me and it’s half foam and like a cappuccino. I really don’t like that.…

how to survive the clothing purge (20 ways)

Mom, you’re a genius with the clothes. Now they are in order and I can just find things and it’s not a mess. Samuel, age 6 As a mom sometimes…

the horrible mom day redeemed

There are some days in motherhood where I want to sit back and shout I did it! Like I real loud run around the block wave my hands in the air…

a moment of good

The other day I was talking with a friend about trying to find joy in a life that seems to be stuck in a perpetual place of limbo. We chatted…

the happiness secret

I’ve been on a quest to find happiness in my life. At first, I thought if only I’d get this fixed then I’d find happy. This resulted in me looking…

moms, be good to each other

I know how hard it is to be real in this digital age. I know how risky it can be to open up. I know what it feels like to…

I love my mom the way she is

Read number five. The way she is. Not for being perfect. Not for having moments where she keeps her cool but really goes crazy. Not for always having homemade cookies…

why don’t you just start?

I was thinking about how to start this Finding Joy Tidying Up Letting Go Challenge. In fact, I’ve spent a great deal of the last week thinking about it –…

why the year of chaos just might be beautiful

If you’ve followed my facebook page you can see that even though I have what I thought to be a brilliant and well-thought out new year letting go of resolutions…

someday

what I tell myself on those really really really long tiring motherhood days…. Someday my house will stay clean. Someday the dishes will be done and cereal not spilled on…

to the invisible feeling mom

  I remember once, a week after giving birth,  going to Target (of course – it’s like the sanctuary for us moms) and walking to the back of the store…

maybe I didn’t need to change me after all

For years I’ve thought that I needed to change. I’d read parenting books on the perfect way to get my toddler to stay in bed or my preschooler to listen.…

the tidying up letting go of stuff challenge

January 2018 – THIS has been one of the most life-changing books that I’ve ever read. It not only decluttered my house, but also my life. It opened up space…

ten real raw finding joy happy mom posts

These are the top ten posts from 2015. They’re a crazy collection of emotions and thoughts and feelings. Some have carried over from the year before – because I believe…

16 Things I Am Letting Go Of

Enjoy my list and may it inspire you. 1: The need to control everything. I’m going to be honest. I like control. I like to drive and don’t really like…

when you need to breathe

I was incredibly behind. I think every year I vow that next year I won’t be the person shopping at the last moment and that I will order things and…

dear mom – you are worth fighting for you

Sometimes, I feel like I’ve let the world down. You see, a friend told me today that he misses me. The happy me. You know the me that doesn’t have…

you’re not the only mom

Who thinks she’s the only mom who doesn’t have it all together. Or worries about her kids. Or thinks that she’s not doing good enough. You’re not the only mom…

a mom who does her best. . .

…Probably looks just like you. You see, I didn’t want to get a Christmas tree this year. I guess it was kind of Scrooge like, but it just seemed so…

to the mom lost in a world of expectations

The past couple of days I have felt like I’ve pretty much disappointed everyone around me. I don’t even know how it happened, really. I don’t wake up thinking today…

the mom day where I embraced the chaos

Tonight was frustrating. Not in the big frustrating ways of motherhood. But in the little things building up and piling up and me all of a sudden telling everyone that…

when you miss normal

I’m writing this in Starbucks. I’m writing this in Starbucks with my usual latte and the usual noise and the usual feel. But it’s not usual. I’m writing this in…

why your kids just need you

I pick my son Samuel up from kindergarten every day. Pick up consists of a whole bunch of parents crowded into an entry way, making small talk and waiting for…

the day I decided to be happy for everyone else

“My grandma was a riveter in WWII . . .with other women. They were forced to work together, to keep each other’s spirits up. To keep each other going. That…

Six Things to Expect this Holiday Season

Maybe it took 40 plus years of doing Christmas for me to realize that instead of putting so much pressure on myself during the holidays that I need to shift…

we just need friends. motherhood is hard enough.

The other day I wrote about the mom that shows up (link). I wrote about my own times of showing up in hopes that many of you would see that you,…

a mom that shows up

Last night my son lost his white phone in the yard covered with three inches of snow. He realized it as we trekked to the middle school for a concert…

why our kids want our attention, not just “uh-huh…that’s nice.”

Today, my daughter sent me a video that she made. This has become her new thing – editing videos and editing pictures and sharing them on Instagram. I think she’s…

my identity is not found in my hair

I have been clinging to this outward identity. Maybe to try to keep the illusion of keeping things together or to not change or to really not let go. I’ve…

i don’t have it all together.

This is me. You may see this picture of me and think that I have it all together. You may see the new highlights in my hair or how sweetly…

to the mom who keeps fighting

Tonight I was the crabby mom. I just didn’t want to make dinner. I didn’t want to do homework. I didn’t want to clean the kitchen. I didn’t want to…

the real truth about divorce

Analytics don’t lie. I went and worked in them today and found some interesting facts about my site. Hundreds of people search this site every month looking for details about…

so I took a nap…

And the world didn’t end. Sure the laundry didn’t get done. Or the floor washed. Or the emails that I needed sent. Or the windows washed. Leaves raked. Garbage taken…

hey sweet mom… you are doing better than you think.

He’s eight now. And he’s awesome, really. Sometimes I don’t realize it as much as I should realize it. I think it’s so easy to get caught up in the…

when life feels out of control

I used to think that I was the most flexible person in the world. I’d joke to others that I could roll with the punches and adapt super fast and…

when you need to fight for you

This is one of those posts that has probably been in my mind for a good year. I’m talking twelve months of how to tastefully and tactfully and gracefully talk…

dear mom you have permission

Yes, you. You have permission to be you. You have permission to be not perfect. You have permission to take time for you. You have permission to scream at times.…

why mom comparison is wearing us all out

I’ve realized something about life – no one has it easy. I’m not sure when the idea that life could be easy or figured out made it’s way into my…

ten things I’ve learned as a single mom

I don’t write about being a single mom that much. Sometimes I don’t because I feel this shame and don’t want to be labeled (I know, I know, in my…

about the mom day where i had enough

Sometimes we have to do things in life that we don’t like so that we become better. That’s what I blurted out to my eight year old son Elijah as…

to the mom tired of being tired

I don’t know what it is right now. Maybe it’s fall. Maybe it’s the sinking into a new routine and the novelty has worn off and now it’s just a…

to the mom who needs a friend

I understand that need. Sometimes motherhood seems so lonely. Like everyone has it all together and we’re the only ones who need someone to just say that it will be…

100 Things Moms Can Stop Apologizing For

Ready? Here you go: 1. Having a messy house. 2. Having dishes in the sink. 3. Bottle feeding. 4. Breastfeeding. 5. When the kids have a melt down in the…

i love being a mom, but….

I think I read that phrase at least a dozen times a day. I love being a mom, but there are times where I am just going crazy. I love…

to the mom who forgot herself

For years I hid. In fact, I had perfected the art of the hide. When others would look in to my life they didn’t see – they didn’t see how…

why I decided to stop apologizing for my imperfect life

I love my kids. Fiercely. I fight for my kids. Every single day. Maybe it doesn’t look like fighting for them. Maybe they don’t have cool notes in their lunch…

when your mom story feels small

I have a friend who has the most fantastic stories and life adventures. It seems as if for every update there’s a story and a parallel and something experienced. It’s…

three ways to find happiness in motherhood

I have this picture in my kitchen. I bought it on clearance at Target. Of course. Remember my house is like the advertorial for Target’s last year trends thanks to…

motherhood. not for wimps.

I used to think I was afraid of stuff. That was until bedtime came around in life. And with bedtime came kids that I love dearly who all of a…

The Joy of Coloring Pages: Mom Deserves a Break Too

Take time for yourself. I don’t know the number of times I’ve been told that I need to do that in this life of mine. It seems like the go-to…

the day I realized I needed to snap out of it

It was today. A really beautiful fall day. And in fact, if you peeked through the curtains of my home you’d think that I had it pretty much together. In…

for the failing mom days

Sometimes people will tell me I’m an awesome mom. They’ll tell me I’m cool and fun and so loving to my kids. They’ll tell me about how great my kids…

this is why the extraordinary in the ordinary is not impossible

Enjoy it right now. It’s so short. I don’t know how many times that phrase has been uttered to me in my twenty years of mothering. I read it here…

Patience: Is this all I get?

Patience. I don’t know how much patience we are each allotted. There are times when I’m really proud of myself and other times where I think I got snippy too…

why you are never just a mom

Today I was the mom in the kindergarten line with the kindergartener throwing the major fit and crying as they peeled him off of me at 7:32 am. Today I…

“mom, mom, mom….are you listening?”

Worst day ever. Worst day ever. Worst day ever. That’s the chant from my five year old.  Yep, that. I don’t feel too awesome. He’s sitting on the couch and…

now the windows stay clean

I’m sitting here in my house, my very quiet house, on my couch in a living room where there are no toys everywhere and with a kitchen that is tidy…

i was the mom crying in the pick up line

That was me. Not the simple brush away a tear kind of cry, but the full fledge tears streaming down my face kind of cry where people look at you…

No more velcro! Teaching how to tie shoes in under ten minutes

I think I need to add – how to tie shoes – to a master parenting schedule of mine. But, I haven’t. And in my twenty years of parenting for…

Pinterest Halloween Attempts by Jack Black (that make me feel normal)

I would like to stand up. And cheer. My favorite? The trash bag spider web. And the truth about the calories. Oh my, that. ~Rachel #findingjoy

sometimes

I am a mom. Sometimes my home is messy and there are dishes in my sink. Sometimes I look at my kids and want to throw up my hands in…

how do YOU put your bra on?

Okay. I loved this because honestly – in my head there was only one way to put a bra on. Isn’t that like life? It’s so easy to assume or…

i just want to be the amazing mom

Sometimes I’m so tired of finding the joy all the time. I’m tired of the schemes and gimmicks and posts and rah rah rah moments that are supposed to be…

“never order a salad from a truck stop”

It’s interesting to think of all the wisdom I could give my younger self. Dear 39 year old, Don’t think 40 will be the end of the world. You’ll make…

the seven essential happy mom rules

We’re talking about some rules tonight. We’re talking about being a happy mom. And it’s not going to be about doing a whole bunch of stuff that is going to…

eight mom moments to not miss

My Elijah turned eight today. Somehow birthdays make me think about the things that matter the most in life. Like these eight truths about mom moments in life. These are…

why our kids need okay moms

Today I drove back from Northern Minnesota with four boys buckled in my van. There were wrappers on the floor and a dvd playing above and chatter about summer camp…

the day I thought I failed at motherhood

I’ve failed. I can’t even type that without raw tears falling from my eyes. But that’s what I whispered in the phone. I know, I know you will tell me…

to the mom that feels lost in motherhood

No one told me that could happen. I think back to all the birthing classes and books and early busy busy years of motherhood and I don’t think that I…

Six Life Lessons to Help Your Kid Survive the First Day of School

I grew up in a military family. And ultimately it was the greatest adventure I could have had. Part of me is sad that I experienced much of the journey…

50 Ways to Ruin Your Preschooler’s Day

Just for fun today. Because, after all, this site is about finding joy and part of that is keeping those preschoolers happy. ~Rachel 1. Lose the only blanket, stuffed animal,…

No Matter Where Your Kids Go to School Can We Just Get Along?

Deep deep breath. Listen. This is an educational choice into the fire hot topic time of the year. I get it. In fact, in some ways, I love it because…

to the mom who forgot her worth

You’ve got this.  That’s what I needed to hear. Oh my that’s what I needed to hear. I wanted to be seen. To be reminded that somehow motherhood is this…

Seven Things to Let Go Of Before School Starts

We’re getting ready to start the crazy schedule again. 1. Guilt – Will you make mistakes? Yes. Will you forget to do/pack/call/make things? Yes. Will you be late? Yes. Will…

Perfect Parents No More -> When We Have Kids

Oh my word. This is the truth. I think I had a stack of books like that as well. Or at least Google. Which, hahah, is worse than a stack…

please take a mom break

I run on empty. I tell myself it’s not really empty and it’s just what moms do and I try to not look at that gauge that is blinking that…

to the mom who just wants to feel appreciated

Don’t you care? Those were the words I said to my boys sitting at the kitchen table this afternoon. My awesome boys, who were just kids, who happened to leave…

my joy today

Today was one of those days with tears hidden behind the eyes. I’m kidding. It’s really one of those days where the tears tumble as quickly as I mention that…

Happy Mom Secrets 5: Can’t Get Some Peace

Hahhaha. This just made me laugh. And tear up just a bit. But mainly just laugh. And love the journey of motherhood. Enjoy! And lol, my house is surprisingly clean…

why there are no silver medals in motherhood

What happened? There are days when the temp is high and humid and I look around at life and I just want to whisper to someone what happened? How did…

the social media pause we all have

I’ve noticed something about social media. In some ways it’s as if this layer of kindness was stripped away and the fact that we’re answering on the computer or on…

Happy Mom Secrets Four: “and why are you late?”

This. This made me laugh – especially the end part – because I so can relate. Sometimes moms will ask me how I do it all (read this post No…

the day my toddler fell from the window

I’ve never written about this day. Sure, I’ve talked about it often. I’ve spoken in front of moms groups or chatted with other moms and dads about that late June…

10 Reasons Moms Love Starbucks

Okay, so feel free to substitute in here any of your favorite coffee chains. And yes yes yes, there is always a controversy with regards to Starbucks. So this isn’t…

when you feel alone in motherhood

My brain doesn’t shut off sometimes. I’ve blamed it on the caffeine intake and the love of Starbucks and that extra shot, but the truth is that it’s my own…

Happy Mom Secrets 3: What did you get done today?

Honestly. This is the best explanation of why us moms seemingly get nothing done. Except, as you’ll see, we’re working all. day. long. love it? share it here and be…

100 Years of Fashion. Which would you choose?

Sometimes I just run across cool videos that I want to share. Like this: I think I love it because it shows such a glimpse into culture and expectations and…

why I want my kids to be bored

I’m bored. I probably heard that within the first sixty minutes of the kids finishing up their school year. I’ll probably hear it an exponential number of times this summer…

what doing a good job in motherhood really looks like

Sometimes at night I will look in the mirror and give myself an “F” for my day of mothering. Well, maybe a “D” and rarely a “C” and even more…

why you are worth more than “I’m fine”

“I’m fine.” I’ve whispered it to to myself and to others. They’ll wonder how I’m doing and I’ll whisper it to them – two little words – “I’m fine” –…

20 Mom Things I Wish I Had Done More Of

1. Compared Less.  Not only with other moms, but with the expectations of motherhood that I had conjured up in my head. Somehow I thought I’d be the mom who…

why i gave up “figuring out” motherhood

I’m not sure why I thought that one day I’d figure this motherhood thing out and it would magically become easy. You know what I mean –  where there aren’t the…

5 Things All of Us Moms Must Remember

I speak often to moms and sometimes I think I’m looked at like I have the wisdom to make all of our lives perfect. I always chuckle, thank them for…

Need a laugh? These #momtexts are the best.

Oh my word. I love Jimmy Fallon. Like he makes me laugh all the time. And I love it that he couldn’t read them without laughing. Hahaha! These texts moms…

10 Things Single Moms Want their Married Friends to Know

1. Please don’t tell them that your husband traveling is the same as being a single mom and therefore you understand.  I know I probably did this and said this…

to the mom who has yelled

First, listen, this is a safe space. There’s no judging if you’ve yelled at your kids. I can’t judge. I’ve been there. And it is the worst. When they were…

when you’ve been let down

I think I’m not alone here. In fact, if I was a betting person, I’d bet that I was not alone here at all. I’d put all my chips in…

5 Choices that Do Not Define Moms

1. Work Choices. Well, now I work full-time (although half from home and the other half traveling) and I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t matter what you need to…

when mother’s day hurts just a bit

Some talk about Mother’s Day. I’m going to be real. I know Mother’s Day hurts for some of you and that you kind of actually look forward to the day…

you are doing better…

…than you often think. For real. Watch this… When you think you are doing a seven…you probably are doing a ten… You have taught me to stay positive. Thank you…

please don’t tell me I’m strong when I’m in the midst of one of those motherhood days

Please don’t tell me I’m strong when I’m in the midst of one of  those days when I’ve had enough and feel like I just want to find my motherhood…

the swimsuit pic that distracted us from the message

I shared a post today that I thought was brilliantly written. It was about this woman sharing about being called “fat” when she wore a swimsuit and how the name…

why it’s time to stop hating the wrinkles

I could make you a list of everything I don’t like about myself. We could start with appearance.  I know, I know, isn’t it like us women to start in…

what does mom mean?

You are uniquely beautiful, my friends. Watch. It’s extraordinary. Sometimes we think it’s about all the things we do – the birthday parties planned, lunches packed, dishes washed, clothes folded,…

i see a fighter

$3.49 $4.30 $6.15 $9.01 $9.89 $10.90 $12.32 That was how I used to shop for groceries. Every single item counted. Calculated. Figured out in my head. Sometimes if I took…

why I’m okay with being the mean mom

I know. I’ve been called it too. Mean mom. The worst mom ever. I hate you. Horrible mom. Not fair mom. You name it. I’ve probably been called it. And…

“treat everybody like today is their birthday. . . “

For those days when you feel like you don’t make a difference. For those days when you feel alone. For those days when you wonder about this journey called life.…

sometimes we have to talk about anxiety

For two years I hid behind the guise of words hoping that the day where I actually wrote words about dealing with anxiety would simply dissipate into the wind and…

would you choose to call yourself beautiful?

How do you see you? As a woman? A mother? A friend? Do you see yourself as beautiful? Would you dare to say that out loud? Would you admit it…

you see versus they see

Some you see versus they see truths of motherhood: you see – store bought pre made cookies that you put on the pan versus homemade. they see – you made cookies. And…

12 Mom Myths Debunked

mom myth 1: You’ll finish laundry. (or your to-do list) mom fact 1: No, no you won’t. At least probably not for the eighteen years per child in your home.…

the no guilt holiday mantra for moms

(just because sometimes, well sometimes those holidays bring guilt.) Easter is just days away. I go into Target and it’s like Christmas there now. Toys and candy and presents and…

real beauty in a social world

Don’t let anyone ever define beauty. Just take a moment and watch. Motherhood is beautiful. Trying again is beautiful. Loving yourself for who you are is beautiful. The other stuff…

to the always giving and exhausted mom

I think I’ve forgotten what it feels like to be not tired. I listen to my children complain about having to go to bed and I just laugh inside. Until…

what moms do behind the scenes is amazing

Just watch. (note: there is some language – so if you have littles around put the headphones in.) I love love love the tenacity of that mom to fight for…

the love no one sees

The other day I watched this unbelievably poignant video about a husband caring for his wife who was going blind. I don’t think it’s possible to watch it without tearing…

to the world changers – measurements don’t define you

To the world changers, the next generation, the ones that look at us and call us “mom”, the ones that stumble and fall and want to do good, the ones…

the fruit cup wars of motherhood

The other day I posted a silly video of me making a plea to fruit cup manufacturers about not filling the fruit cups to the tops with juice all the…

dear mom who has had enough

So I’ll just tell you all that this is a morning where the tears are behind the eyes. It’s just life. Sometimes when it rains the flood gates open and…

all i want is sleep

I don’t think before I had kids I understood the desiring sleep thing. Sleep. That beautiful elusive five letter thing of joy that doesn’t seem to exist much in motherhood.…

what did you do all day?

The other day I drove back to school, in heavy falling snow, with a pair of worn out almost hole in the knee Columbia blue snow pants for my nine…

Ten Facts About When Moms Get Sick

So I might be just a wee bit under the weather. Now, when moms say they’re just a tad under the weather the rest of the world would be under…

what if i quit being a mom. . .

. . .That the world told me to be and just mothered instead? What if I quit thinking that being a good mom was based on having everything perfect and…

behind the picture

I took a picture this morning. It was of Samuel eating berries and whipped cream and waffles. And he’s so happy in it. Like I mean ridiculously happy in it…

why the non gold star days of motherhood count. sometimes even more.

Do you ever have those days where no matter what you say or do it seems to come out the wrong way? Those days when you wish you could either…

on being a single mom

Sometimes I wish I could just talk freely about what it is like to be a single parent. I don’t like to. I like to hide, honestly, behind the cloak…

i’m a good mom, right?

Tell me I’m not alone in wondering that. Tell me I’m not the only one who stands in the bathroom and looks in the mirror with tears in her eyes…

the epic mom advice that you want to hear

The other day I asked this simple question on my Finding Joy Facebook Page. What is some of the best mom advice you’ve ever received? This is the result. Epic…

to the mom who wonders “is this really my life?”

Get up. Pack lunches while waiting for the Keurig to brew my coffee while I quick unload the dishwasher. Wake them. Hear I don’t want to go to school. Hear…

“the worry. . . no one understands the worry.”

That’s what nobody gets….  I try to explain just the worry, the worry never goes away…. When I’m not worried about him, I’m worried about the that I’m not worried…

the most beautiful words ever spoken about moms

Just watch. But have some kleenex by you. Not just some, but a bunch.  You will need them. You know what I love about this? It applies to us too…

why in the world do we care?

My friends laugh at me sometimes when we take pictures. They know I’ll joke about having a better side and I’ll move so I stand in a certain spot and…

when you feel like you don’t make a difference remember this. . .

The way your child’s eyes light up when you pick them up from school. How you know just the right way to tuck sheets up and where to put the…

enough chocolate cake anxiety

The other day for dinner we had chocolate cake. Dinner time came and we were late and honestly, I simply didn’t feel like making something in the rush, so I…

why it is not the worst thing in the world to be needed

For the days when you need a reminder of the strength of you. For the days when you need to remember the beauty of being needed. For the days when…

why do we dismiss our awesome as moms?

How many times do we dismiss all we do as moms? How many times are we too hard on ourselves? How many times do we think we’re just a mom?…

no more mommy wars

A friend sent me this video because he knew my heart here on Finding Joy. He knew that I embrace us as mothers loving each other for who we are…

the two words moms should tell each other

Me too. The other day a friend of mine uttered those little and yet big and profound words to me after I told her about how I had this overwhelming…

why you should just throw the marshmallows

I’ve been living a bit overwhelmed. Wait. In the words of Willy Wonka  – Strike that. Reverse it. Thank you. I’ve been living a whole bunch overwhelmed since 2015 began, which…

the happy mom pledge

Repeat after me. (and if you have little kids it might take a couple tries simply because you don’t get much quiet.) I will know that I make a difference. And…

when all the spinning plates crash

If you saw me in the airport you might think that I had my life all together. You might assume that I go home to an immaculate home and drive…

the mom days when the tears fall

On Tuesday I cried for I don’t know what reason why. Well, I busted the keyboard on the netbook computer that I saved up to buy my kids for Christmas.…

dear mom, you are not alone

You are not alone. You are not alone when you wake and you push the snooze button and wish for five more minutes of sleep and push the snooze button…

why admitting it’s not always glitter, sunshine, and roses is an important message about motherhood

I received a comment this weekend asking me to change my message stating that it wasn’t good to endorse those days where we might stand in the closet and scream…

no one apologized for their kitchen

When I was in Haiti I learned about real perspective. But it took all these years: When I was young I would spend hours and hours and hours building these…

15 SuperMom Resolutions

You know there isn’t just one Supermom, right? We’re all supermoms in our own awesome spectacular pull up our boot straps way. That’s the first resolution, by the way. (thanks…

Some Real Mom Advice

When you become a mom it feels like all the answers are in a book, online, or from your mom. You’ll quickly discover that your child is the one percent…

12 Needed Habits for Busy Moms

We’re busy. Almost all the time. And in the busy it’s easy to just keep moving and moving and racing and running and moving again and living out of breath.…

i forgot how to be the happy mom

The other day a friend of mine told me to have fun with my kids. I said in reply – I don’t know if I know how to do that…

Happy Mom Secrets Two: We all Need Starbucks

This. Times infinity. Squared. Times infinity again. Sometimes videos are just too good that they must be shared with you all. Including this one. Because I cannot think about how…

the harvest years of motherhood

The last several months I’ve had to work incredibly hard. Harder than I’ve ever worked – it’s those days of bone tired, mind weary, keep on pushing, and hustling tired.…

why we need to look in the face of childhood hunger and do something

Eighteen months ago I sat in a white truck driving through the crowded streets of Port-au-Prince, Haiti. It was a type of crowded that makes our sense of crowded seem…

25 Things I Want My Kids to Know About Christmas.

My facebook stream was littered with posts about the Black Friday craziness. There are YouTube videos of people fighting over $2 toasters and people punching people and crazy lines and…

they tell me this is the perfect mom…

They tell me the perfect mom reads to her child for twenty minutes a day and does math facts and creative games. But the real mom in me is grateful…

surviving motherhood. it’s okay to be real.

Sometimes being a mom is the hardest job in the world. And thankless. Energy draining. Frustrating. And crazy. So let’s just be real. I’m not talking about having a big…

the motherhood days we do not talk about that much

The other day I stood in my closet and I just screamed. It was a scream of frustration. Of feeling lost and unimportant. Of fighting, fighting, fighting and never feeling…

when facebook decided motherhood was spam

Two days ago I wrote a post that went crazy viral. (updated link with one we’re allowed to share) It was about motherhood and about those days that we don’t like…

sometimes motherhood…

Doesn’t look perfect. Doesn’t have the Hallmark days. Doesn’t match the expectations. In fact, today has already been one of those sometimes motherhood days. I didn’t get much sleep. Make…

the motherhood days we don’t talk about that much but we should

Please Note (11/20/14): Facebook has decided that this post is spam and has blocked it from being shared. Please, if you like it consider sharing it via pinterest, twitter, stumble…

i survived the parent teacher conference

Fact: I homeschooled my kids for 12 years. Parent teacher conferences prior to this year were really me talking to myself and me most of the time giving myself a…

when you feel you’re no good remember this

The other day my energetic and exuberant nine year old Caleb climbed into the car after school and within seconds starting sobbing. I’m no good at school. Those were the…

10 Things to NOT do this Holiday Season

1. Stress that you’re getting the very best deal. Let’s face it – there will always be one more deal, one more thing cheaper, and more options. Step back from…

dear target, we all love you.

I know. You’re thinking that you’re just a retailer who happened to choose a logo that looks like a bullseye that is the most perfect shade of red ever. And…

i always wanted…but then life happened

I always wanted to be the kind of mom who made the coolest lunches for her kids and put them in fancy lunch boxes and included a hand written note…

my favorite easy fall recipe: baked apples

No joke. This is as easy as it gets. Go to store: Buy Granny Smith Apples. Get a pie plate and put 6-8 apples on it. Hollow the apples out…

to the mom who needs to hear that it will be okay. even if you mess up and want to quit for a moment.

I can’t find my math sheet. That’s how my morning started. It was supposed to be an easy morning. You know, come on, we all were blessed with the awesomeness…

eleven things we forget to thank moms for

These are the things (and driving them to school counts). 1.  Thanks for Listening to almost anything. We listen. Even when it’s a fifteen minute conversation about arachnids or why…

“i’m just not enough”

…for who?   ^^^^^^This is what I want to pound in my brain.^^^^^^^ This is what I want to remember when I go to bed at night and I talk…

I’m tired of saying I’m sorry

I’m sorry. I probably say, think, type, whisper, message, or text those words dozens of times a day. I’m sorry I didn’t get that done. I’m sorry that I felt…

what moms need to see.

Today I held ice to a cut underneath the eye of my four year old while he held his head in my chest and sobbed over his lost battle with…

Happy Mom Secrets: “I Just Can’t Clean This Place”

This. Is. My. Life. I think I might love Laughing Moms even more after this one. Especially the scene with the messy room. Oh my word. That’s so my life.…

The 36 Rules of Dinner

These are the rules shared to me by my good friend and business partner Dan R Morris. Today I’m super thankful to share (with permission) his rules of dinner, which,…

moving on. why really living means letting go.

I read a post on Single Dad Laughing today that made me stop in my tracks. Like cold stop, heart beating, palms sweating just a bit stop in your tracks.…

Stopping the R-Rated Evolution of Halloween

Remember when you’d get in trouble for saying the smell my feet rhyme? Now days it seems like the new rhyme is Trick or Treat, fishnet stocking feet, give me…

on saying goodbye and all the things you wish you could have done.

I woke up with tears in my eyes today. By the time I got to writing these words the tears were no longer in my eyes but were a big…

five dollars of perspective

This story is not about me. It’s about a moment in seeing those around us and caring just a bit. It’s about perspective. And how I almost missed it. *****…

18 Things to Know about Motherhood

These are those little things we all should know so that motherhood doesn’t make us go completely insane. Or at least not at the point where we completely lose all…

to all the mommas on saying goodbye

I stood in the hallway and watched him run into his classroom. His little feet, with the new gray shoes with velcro straps that still stuck tightly, that we so…

the day my son taught me about limits

Today I took my youngest son to Burger King. This is the boy who this morning took a nap on the bottom stair. And the picture doesn’t even relate to…

13 Types of Motherhood Days

A collection of typical motherhood days, their frequency and what to expect. 1. I am Mom and Hear Me Roar Days. These are the days when you are on top…

dear mom who feels like she is failing her kids

Tonight I cried. Big fat heavy ugly tears. I felt like I was failing my kids – those kids I love with all of me. I always wanted to be…

Need Encouragement? Here are 10 Must Read Posts for Moms.

Looking for some encouragement? These are the top ten motherhood posts from Finding Joy over the top year. Each post is linked in the title, with a key what’s it…

seven truths about friendships to remember

I’m 43. Ack… And I’ve had my ups and downs in friendship. The journey, mind you.   So I think I might be finally getting an idea on friendships. After…

take care of you, dear mom.

I just wanted to close my eyes. For ten minutes. I had one of those headaches. You know, the ones where it feels like a dull fork is smashed through…

why I didn’t want to pull up my bootstraps anymore

Who thought of that expression? That and plow through it, keep on keeping on, not quitting the fight, and and on. I start to wonder if they’ve really experienced all…

seeing the positive in yourself (from me, the classic over-reactor)

This is me. #blushing Scenario 1: Woman at Target looks at me with a strange look. My Response Internally: What is it about me? Is it my hair? That Samuel’s…

five truths for imperfect moms who love their kids fiercely

Tonight I cried outside on a deck 914 miles from my house. I cried because I missed my kids open house for first and third grade. I missed it because…

“you are mothering…”

We don’t. I don’t. You don’t. The mom next door doesn’t. The mom at the preschool class with the super cool treats with handmade decorations doesn’t. The mom in the…

Day 15: It’s all about You. #findingjoy challenge

(if you’re wondering where days 9,10,11,12,13, and 14 are — well, they’ll be coming — let’s just say life got a bit busy. Wait. Super busy. Like flying to Denver…

when life isn’t what you thought it would be

I just said that title to a friend of mine today on the phone. I told her that I never thought this would be my place in life. My story.…

15 Things That Don’t Define Motherhood – and the One Thing That Matters

For real. Don’t let these fifteen things take away from your awesomeness. Enjoy. And remember – there is no perfect – just real. 1. Making Mistakes. We all make mistakes.…

10 Things Happy Moms Don’t Do

1. Base self worth on other’s opinions. Happiness that is dependent on what other’s think of you is happiness that will never appear. The truth is that there will be…

Day 8: Clear the Clutter #findingjoy

Stuff can suffocate joy. Sometimes we can look at stuff as being the answer – we hope for new things – and yet every single thing that we have in…

Day 7: Pay it Forward. Spread Joy. #fidningjoy

This might be one of my favorite days ever. Yesterday we blessed someone who blessed us in our lives – so many of you wrote me telling about how you…

Day 6: The Amazing Impact of Others. #findingjoy

Can you believe we are already to Day 6 of this challenge? Day 6 of deliberately living a life where we look for joy. Day 6 of seeing our awesome.…

characteristics of the perfect mom

She fails. Or at least thinks she fails, but then she stands up, brushes off the crumbs and discouragement, and tries again. And again. And again. She learns that those…

Day 5: Why Dreams Matter. For Real #findingjoy

Today is the beginning of change. Today the goal is to finally speak that dream that you have – or maybe – maybe for some of you it is simply…

Day 4: I am Worth It. (because yes, you are). #findingjoy

Today it’s about letting go. It’s about letting go of all of those things that hold you back. It’s about letting go of the fears, the worries, the angst, and…

Day 3: One Minute Gratitude #findingjoy challenge

I had another post almost written. It was about gratitude and why it’s important and that on some days it’s harder to be grateful and yet it’s an excellent discipline.…

Day 2: Seeing Your AWESOME… #findingjoy

Yesterday I had you all do the I am Enough challenge. (you can do this anytime) Let me tell you first of all. I am beyond overwhelmed by the result.…

Day 1: I am Enough #findingjoy challenge

You know how a house has to have a foundation? The foundation for this entire challenge – for finding joy and living a life filled with more hope, joy, happiness,…

Is this What I Signed Up For?

I used to be terrified of vomit. I know. How is that for an opening line? But, listen, it’s true. I couldn’t step within five feet of it without getting…

want to live with more joy (and less angst)? join the #findingjoy challenge

Seriously. Have you seen the quote/image going around Facebook about anxiety girl? It’s this super hero drawing of a girl with her hand in the air and it says, “Anxiety…

21 Things Normal Moms Do

A short list of normal mom things. 1. Drive the extra loop in the neighborhood just so you can have a moment more of quiet. No guilt for this one.…

the first (and limited edition) finding joy teeshirt is here!

Last week, on Facebook, I posted this simple and fun question for our awesome, and I mean encouraging real mom kind of awesome,  Finding Joy Community Post by Finding Joy.…

“i am enough” – the power of moms

It’s been a year. One year since I sat in the Rogers, Minnesota, Starbucks and typed out the words about being enough as a mom. I remember the morning, a…

Dear Mom Letters Flash Give Away

Hey friends! I’m in a celebratory mood right now as I’m getting super close to finalizing all the details on my Dear Mom Letters book. So, to celebrate I’ve decided…

why value isn’t based on the past, the things you do, or how others treat you

I learned to hate myself in childhood. I learned that I was the girl who was spit on in the hallways of the high school. I learned that others could…

why time is more important than stuff

The other day I received a sweet comment from a mom who wished she was able to purchase extra things for her kids and then wrestling with this feeling about…

why you need to let go of mom guilt

This is why: [Tweet “Mom guilt keeps us from seeing the awesome in today.”] Listen. We all have those moments where we mess up. We drop the ball, we yell,…

the real mantra of motherhood

I’m exhausted. Most days. It’s become a fact that in my house if I sit down for more than seven minutes that the chances that I will fall asleep wherever…

10 Tips for the Days When the To-Do List Drives You Crazy

Tip 1: Don’t let it drive you crazy. It’s just a to-do list. Stuff to complete. Completing the to-do list isn’t a measure of success. In fact, sometimes allowing yourself…

why you’re worth more than the perfect selfie

I’ll admit it. I’ve done the selfie thing. Sit in the car or at the table, get the kids behind, look up and smile. Try again. One of them was…

10 Ways to Burn Out as a Mom (and how to avoid them)

These ten things contribute to mom burnout. We don’t want burnout. We want awesome. When we know the triggers we can learn how to avoid them. Here’s the list awesome…

real life mom notes

A collection of my real life mom notes. I will remember that motherhood is a beautiful gift. I will especially remember this at 8:05 am after my world has turned…

why we need to stop asking, “how do you do it all?”

No more. No more asking of the mom racing through the store chasing two toddlers and holding a baby on her hip while coupons fall from her once organized coupon…

why motherhood doesn’t need filters to be awesome

This is a no filter post. It’s only real. It’s about celebrating motherhood in a world of filters and expectations and airbrush ideas. Yes that. It’s about the beauty of…

the mom day where busy won